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Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
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Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Being a role model, how difficult can it be???
A troubled mother took her son, to see Ramakrishna Paramahamsa, it seems the young boy, was addicted to eating sweets, and his mother wanted Paramahamsa to speak to him about this harmful habit and convince him to drop it. Upon hearing this request, Paramahamsa, paused in silence and then told the mother, "Bring your son, back to me in three weeks and I will speak to him then."
Just as she was instructed, the mother returned with her son, and Paramahamsa, as he had promised, spoke to the boy about the detrimental effects of eating too many sweets. He counseled him to give them up.
The mother gratefully thanked Paramahamsa, but was perplexed. "Why," she asked him, "did you not speak to my son when we first came to you?"
"Dear" he replied, "three weeks ago, I myself was still addicted to sweets!", I thought it was Ma’s wish, it took me three weeks to control my addiction.”
This is a story that has changed my view of doing things. If I want my child to do something, I try my level best to show him that I do that. If I am not able to it, I try to explain to them the reason it is beyond me and that they should try.
You need to practice what you preach. While television and other media try to drive home the fact that well-known celebrities as role models for kids, I feel, most of the people in general believe parents should/ are the first role models of their child.
If you want a child who is loving, understanding, you need to establish it with showing him that you love him, understand him. This definitely helps in the longer run. A I love you, a hug, a kiss, goes a long way to teach them that we care, love them and also they tend to reciprocate the same.
Always be a understanding parent, never be a parent who takes a stand. Listen to your child and learn to see his childhood through his eyes, rather than through a parent’s eye alone. A very communicating and trusting parent will be the one to whom the child will turn to when he needs suggestions or solutions. The more you show that you understand and trust your child, your child is going to trust you to be there for him.
As parents we cannot demand respect for our age or for the reason we brought our kids to the world. Respect should be felt and given without any pressure. At the same time, we do need to understand the space that our child needs, respect them for that, also keep up their respects in front of their peers.. many a times, we do see parents ridiculing their child in front of his playmates/classmates, which embarrasses and sometimes disgraces the child.
It is difficult to be a good role model to our kids, as we are human and sometimes we do make mistakes, and the best thing that we could do is to accept the mistake , correct it, in turn teaching our kids that accepting mistakes and they will learn to own up and not hide.
Maybe we cannot be the best role models, but we can definitely learn to be one by the time our child grows up. Remember reading this, not sure of the author……Don't worry that children never listen to you, worry that they are always watching you.
I am not a good role model, and do not feel bad to own it, learning from my mistakes and telling my kids not to make the same mistakes, isn’t all this part of my growing up too…..
What do you say my friends….
Just as she was instructed, the mother returned with her son, and Paramahamsa, as he had promised, spoke to the boy about the detrimental effects of eating too many sweets. He counseled him to give them up.
The mother gratefully thanked Paramahamsa, but was perplexed. "Why," she asked him, "did you not speak to my son when we first came to you?"
"Dear" he replied, "three weeks ago, I myself was still addicted to sweets!", I thought it was Ma’s wish, it took me three weeks to control my addiction.”
This is a story that has changed my view of doing things. If I want my child to do something, I try my level best to show him that I do that. If I am not able to it, I try to explain to them the reason it is beyond me and that they should try.
You need to practice what you preach. While television and other media try to drive home the fact that well-known celebrities as role models for kids, I feel, most of the people in general believe parents should/ are the first role models of their child.
If you want a child who is loving, understanding, you need to establish it with showing him that you love him, understand him. This definitely helps in the longer run. A I love you, a hug, a kiss, goes a long way to teach them that we care, love them and also they tend to reciprocate the same.
Always be a understanding parent, never be a parent who takes a stand. Listen to your child and learn to see his childhood through his eyes, rather than through a parent’s eye alone. A very communicating and trusting parent will be the one to whom the child will turn to when he needs suggestions or solutions. The more you show that you understand and trust your child, your child is going to trust you to be there for him.
As parents we cannot demand respect for our age or for the reason we brought our kids to the world. Respect should be felt and given without any pressure. At the same time, we do need to understand the space that our child needs, respect them for that, also keep up their respects in front of their peers.. many a times, we do see parents ridiculing their child in front of his playmates/classmates, which embarrasses and sometimes disgraces the child.
It is difficult to be a good role model to our kids, as we are human and sometimes we do make mistakes, and the best thing that we could do is to accept the mistake , correct it, in turn teaching our kids that accepting mistakes and they will learn to own up and not hide.
Maybe we cannot be the best role models, but we can definitely learn to be one by the time our child grows up. Remember reading this, not sure of the author……Don't worry that children never listen to you, worry that they are always watching you.
I am not a good role model, and do not feel bad to own it, learning from my mistakes and telling my kids not to make the same mistakes, isn’t all this part of my growing up too…..
What do you say my friends….
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dear shan,
late entry from me but glad i did not miss this as it is a favourite topic in our house..
atleast you girls still have a chance as your kids are growing up but OMG mine is over,just kidding as it is a life long process,no?
now she is an eighteen year old ....we treat her as an adult as she has very definite views and thoughts...generally we talk of everything as friends...yes, i do keep the thought "it was so different in our times " to myself...always there to listen and TRYING not to be judgemental..
and I do confess to her about not being the" perfect" person always and that since she still has age and time on her side she can be a better person than me..
love
mindiPosted 9th July 2009 at 12:22 AM by Mindian
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mindi dear,...
I believe that being there for the kids is a life long process.
Good to know that you share the same views as mine with regard to being a role model.
I feel, without being worried about being on the pedestal it is great to step down and say i am not perfect, but you can be perfect, by learning from my mistakes.
thanks for being here buddy...Posted 9th July 2009 at 08:29 AM by Shanvy -
Hi Shanvy
Nice to see your passage on "being a role model....." very correct. You have a very great soul. Thats why you can think about all these and share it with everybody. Hats off to you Shanvy. I am going to read all your blogs and trying to understand how to be a role model and how to be an example (atleast at my mid 30s). Examples can be of two types. A good one and a bad one. I will be a good example.....I swear!!Posted 18th July 2009 at 05:07 AM by deraj - Deraj,
I am humbled to see that my blog has made you sit and think and analyze..
I just share what i have seen around, and what i have learned through my experiences...Posted 18th July 2009 at 06:44 AM by Shanvy
