hi all,
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Life has taught us lot of things...we have been shocked, had our quota of fun, and also impressed and impacted from the everyday news...The panchantra stories to the chicken soup to the today's real life stories...
This is from our desk...shanvy and vysan
Parental Pride
Posted 9th January 2009 at 04:53 AM by Shanvy
As a Child each of us would have always watched for a glimpse of that little pride in our parent’s eyes, which we sometimes thought was a yard stick and needed that approval. Some of us were lucky, and some well never got a glimpse.
Now when I have crossed 13+ years of parenthood, I have had my share of bragging, head swollen with pride, eyes brimming with joy and every other feel of the great Parental Pride.
I remember two things when I think of Parental Pride.
An incident I have read about ..
“On one occasion someone came on Robert Louis Stevenson turning over the pages of a scrapbook of press cuttings about his own books. ‘Well,’ said the friend ‘is fame all that it’s cracked up to be?’ ‘Yes,’ said Stevenson, ‘when I see my mother’s face.’ His mother’s joy in his success was dearer to him than all his fame with others.”
Another the ad that comes for the havell cables.. I hope many of you have seen this. If not just definitely have a look at it. You feel it hitting your gut. The pride in the mother's face and the concern in the child’s face. To be frank, I thank God, for kids, who react in the same way as that one., maybe that is the reason this particular ad has touched my heart. Will brag a few paras later..
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As parents the first word, the first step, the first dance , the first day at school everything is a milestone that are memorable and we take so much interest in it, nothing wrong in it, in fact it is necessary for the bonding.
Have you been to a school sports day or to the cultural day, you see the parents almost going up the platform along with the child receiving the trophy. You hear them clapping till the end for their kids, when it would have been a polite one for the others. Now, it is not wrong on their part, it is definitely a great feeling to witness an achievement by your child whether it is a big or a small one.
I am never against bragging or talking about loved ones as long as it is not going overboard and boring the other person, who may or may not related to parenthood as you do. And I have seen some parents, just calling up and bragging up their child’s achievement, which has forced the other parent to start hurting the Loved one’s with comparisons.
When the parent starts talking so high of their child in front of the child, it goes both ways. Sometimes, the child thinks he is great, and acts pompous too. Showing your pride moderately is the key, as in case of praise.
Both pride and praise are needed but within limits.
Coming to brag, though I have been given many moments of pride, there are two incident that remains the epitome of pride to me even today...
My FIL was ill, and I and Dd had taken him to the doctor. DD was just 3, and our luck, we were asked to admit him immediately, those days, we did not have a phone at home, so I told my daughter, to sit with Grandpa, and check if the drips were dropping properly and if there is anything wrong call the nurse aunty. Believe me, I was back at the hospital after an hour and she was sitting in the same place, holding his hand, and eyes on the drip, and the nurse came and told me she was acting so responsible.
Now DD is 13, she has given me great moments of PP but this incident and the image of her sitting there, remains in my mind.
DS, was 4, (he is 10 going to be 11 this month) he had been playing with a group of kids in a friend's place. By accident, one of the toys broke; all the kids put it back in its place and ran home. He went to the friend and told “Aunty, this toy broke, while we were all playing, I am sorry.”
The friend came home, hugging him to tell us that you are lucky to have a great son.
We replaced that toy inspite of her saying no. Till date he never lies, even if he has made a grave mistake. The moment of my friend coming home hugging him and telling that remains etched forever….
What about your Parental Pride, and what is your take on it??
Now when I have crossed 13+ years of parenthood, I have had my share of bragging, head swollen with pride, eyes brimming with joy and every other feel of the great Parental Pride.
I remember two things when I think of Parental Pride.
An incident I have read about ..
“On one occasion someone came on Robert Louis Stevenson turning over the pages of a scrapbook of press cuttings about his own books. ‘Well,’ said the friend ‘is fame all that it’s cracked up to be?’ ‘Yes,’ said Stevenson, ‘when I see my mother’s face.’ His mother’s joy in his success was dearer to him than all his fame with others.”
Another the ad that comes for the havell cables.. I hope many of you have seen this. If not just definitely have a look at it. You feel it hitting your gut. The pride in the mother's face and the concern in the child’s face. To be frank, I thank God, for kids, who react in the same way as that one., maybe that is the reason this particular ad has touched my heart. Will brag a few paras later..
.As parents the first word, the first step, the first dance , the first day at school everything is a milestone that are memorable and we take so much interest in it, nothing wrong in it, in fact it is necessary for the bonding.
Have you been to a school sports day or to the cultural day, you see the parents almost going up the platform along with the child receiving the trophy. You hear them clapping till the end for their kids, when it would have been a polite one for the others. Now, it is not wrong on their part, it is definitely a great feeling to witness an achievement by your child whether it is a big or a small one.
I am never against bragging or talking about loved ones as long as it is not going overboard and boring the other person, who may or may not related to parenthood as you do. And I have seen some parents, just calling up and bragging up their child’s achievement, which has forced the other parent to start hurting the Loved one’s with comparisons.
When the parent starts talking so high of their child in front of the child, it goes both ways. Sometimes, the child thinks he is great, and acts pompous too. Showing your pride moderately is the key, as in case of praise.
Both pride and praise are needed but within limits.
Coming to brag
, though I have been given many moments of pride, there are two incident that remains the epitome of pride to me even today...My FIL was ill, and I and Dd had taken him to the doctor. DD was just 3, and our luck, we were asked to admit him immediately, those days, we did not have a phone at home, so I told my daughter, to sit with Grandpa, and check if the drips were dropping properly and if there is anything wrong call the nurse aunty. Believe me, I was back at the hospital after an hour and she was sitting in the same place, holding his hand, and eyes on the drip, and the nurse came and told me she was acting so responsible.
Now DD is 13, she has given me great moments of PP but this incident and the image of her sitting there, remains in my mind.
DS, was 4, (he is 10 going to be 11 this month) he had been playing with a group of kids in a friend's place. By accident, one of the toys broke; all the kids put it back in its place and ran home. He went to the friend and told “Aunty, this toy broke, while we were all playing, I am sorry.”
The friend came home, hugging him to tell us that you are lucky to have a great son.
We replaced that toy inspite of her saying no. Till date he never lies, even if he has made a grave mistake. The moment of my friend coming home hugging him and telling that remains etched forever….
What about your Parental Pride, and what is your take on it??
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Dear Shanthi,
What a wonderful thought ... My wishes to Charu and Srivats.... Hats off !!! Very happy for you.... dear !!
With love,
GowriPosted 9th January 2009 at 05:55 PM by Gowri66
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Dear Shan,
For the parents the children are their greatest asset and whatever the children do is a pleasure for them.
I am really glad that your children are caring and with moral values.
Congrats to you. My wishes to your children.Posted 10th January 2009 at 01:19 AM by swathi14 -
Shanthi,
Nice, Na, Super blog!!! With both my DD's I have my moments of pride but then they are like chalk and cheese. When my younger DD was born my olderr girl was waiting for hours together without food or water, not even to go to the washroom did she step away from the OT entrance. Another thing is she cannot lie for anything, Both are my very special moments of PP. Even when she is in pain, underwent major surgery, she withstood it without making a noise , much to the surprise of the doctor.
Younger one , will balbber in her own way when I leave for work, Take care, be careful and I just smile in PP. Small moments, precious ones that make such a difference.Posted 10th January 2009 at 02:48 AM by Jananikrithsan -
I am back with my PP moments!
Shanthi, Big hugs to Charu and Sri and you too for having such kids. Blessed you are!
My eyes are now brimming with tears after seeing the ad in the link. Talking about subtlety.....in all the aspects
Thinking about my Parental Pride moments....too many to mention and I owe it largely to DH who is more patient in teaching the values of life and really takes pain to explain things using real life examples. In this instant, those PPMs which comes to my mind are...
1. Last year one of our neighbors(who is a north Indian and has a daughter 4 years old), suddenly came to DH and told, "M, Your son is so clever. Last evening we asked him about his school and the lessons they taught. He told us, dont worry Uncle, our school also has Hindi, so your daughter will not have a problem. This he answered before we asked him the Q about mother tongue language. You have brought him up well" DH still now smiles and ofcourse me too...when we recall the incident.
2. 1 month ago when he asked me to buy toys or something, I answered him since I am not working I cannot afford to get expensive toys to him frequently. Then after 1 week we were in the mall, and when we passed the cake shop, I asked him if he wanted any cakes?, he answered me, "Never mind Ma...I know since you are not working you don't have much money, so we can buy later when you have money". Oh my god...my eyes brimmed with tears and is brimming now, as I type...
Who is teaching these kids to be so caring and loving so innocently and make us humble with their instant wisdoms...?
I should shut off before I overdose your blog with too many PPMs.
Loved it Shanthi...Thanks for making me reliving the moments again.Posted 10th January 2009 at 07:41 AM by AbhiSing 
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Dear shanthi...
Really a great blog... ofcourse any parent will have this PP.. i'm enjoying this for past 4 yrs...
two incidents which i could recall immediately...
During my sisters wedding, after all the ceremony was over we left our sister in groom's place mom started to cry... when we tried to convince her we also started crying... everyone joined suddenly nagla started wiping my eyes and cried louder immediately we all stopped... but she did'nt stop just wiping my eyes she was crying louder... she was just 1.5yrs that time... just cant forget that incident...Posted 10th January 2009 at 11:02 AM by shvap_786
