Hello everyone,
This is my blog on IL , you can expect just about anything here. It can be a poem, story, a quote , a song, a movie, a friend's real-life crisis, my office, my dreams, my ambitions..Anything which touches my heart.
Life so far has been rich whirlwind journey. It has taken me to literally whole world in term of reading , travelling and reaching out. I sometimes feel twenty four hours are less in a day. So much to do, so much to see, so much to imbibe. Have you ever looked at nature and thought.. For whom, god has created this wonderful maze of surprises.. For those who dont believe in God. I would say, for whom, this big-bang theory has created such mind blowing landscapes.
So sit tight. I am going to take you along on my journey of life. Its anything but boring. Lot of spice , lot of gossip, some wisdom, some mischiefs and then some good karma..
Ria
This is my blog on IL , you can expect just about anything here. It can be a poem, story, a quote , a song, a movie, a friend's real-life crisis, my office, my dreams, my ambitions..Anything which touches my heart.
Life so far has been rich whirlwind journey. It has taken me to literally whole world in term of reading , travelling and reaching out. I sometimes feel twenty four hours are less in a day. So much to do, so much to see, so much to imbibe. Have you ever looked at nature and thought.. For whom, god has created this wonderful maze of surprises.. For those who dont believe in God. I would say, for whom, this big-bang theory has created such mind blowing landscapes.
So sit tight. I am going to take you along on my journey of life. Its anything but boring. Lot of spice , lot of gossip, some wisdom, some mischiefs and then some good karma..
Ria
Write something for the heck of it..
Okay I have to push myself to write because at time I can really laze big time. Thats what I am doing.
There were bunch of topics coming to my mind for the next post. But for some reason I couldn't type it full. Blame my divided self. So many corners of my life are in action that this IL corner is kind of getting step motherly treatment. Not that I relish it. But sometimes life runs too fast to get grip of all it has.
First thought was About Sir Amitabh Bachchan, He has an active blog. And I follow it. He does come across as grand personality bruised by Media. I can understand his agony at times. But other times I join the gang of commenter saying.. Ignore them Sir. I feel celebrities get so lonely sitting on that aloof mountain peak. It’s a fair attempt from his side to peak in valley we are all standing in. He is at his gracious best.
I also follow some great author's blog. Seth Godin being another superb business writer. I follow it to the hilt. He was a very slap sticky way to tell you the truth.
I do follow couple of other major blogs and some other less popular blogs. Its beautiful to see people's life through window of their blogs. I do have my two blogs too. They get fair share of readership too. So it's all good.
Now second topic I wanted to write about was our selective conservatism..
1)I am okay as long as my son marries a women.
2)I am okay as long as my son marries a native fellow women.
3)I am okay as long as my son marries someone of my region.
4)I am okay as long as my son marries upper caste.
5)I am okay as long as my son marries my caste person.
6)I am okay as long as my son marries my sub castes and upper level sub castes.
7)I am okay as long as my son doesn’t marry as per his wish..
See in above seven lines I have mentioned an evolution for seven generations. Right so we have selective conservatism for everything in life. Marriage being very obvious one, we do have other fetishes like.. Food preferences, Religious preferences, Social preferences.. I don’t know what's the origin of the selective behavior. But we certainly cannot learn it from nature. Nature never bestows its resources selectively. It can be best described random than anything.
Then maybe we learnt it from our survival struggle. I will have my preferred food as long as it’s available. Then I will choose something which is next to my favorite food.
Before I conclude this post, it’s important for me to mention, that I am fighting a belief that women tend to blog about personal life than anything else. I have read it in couple of places. That women are more likely to write emotional and non-practical blogs. I beg to differ. Women may carry their feeling on their sleeves. But when they outshine in this "dog eat dog " corporate world. They sure are not getting any mileage for being emotional.. what say folks?
There were bunch of topics coming to my mind for the next post. But for some reason I couldn't type it full. Blame my divided self. So many corners of my life are in action that this IL corner is kind of getting step motherly treatment. Not that I relish it. But sometimes life runs too fast to get grip of all it has.
First thought was About Sir Amitabh Bachchan, He has an active blog. And I follow it. He does come across as grand personality bruised by Media. I can understand his agony at times. But other times I join the gang of commenter saying.. Ignore them Sir. I feel celebrities get so lonely sitting on that aloof mountain peak. It’s a fair attempt from his side to peak in valley we are all standing in. He is at his gracious best.
I also follow some great author's blog. Seth Godin being another superb business writer. I follow it to the hilt. He was a very slap sticky way to tell you the truth.
I do follow couple of other major blogs and some other less popular blogs. Its beautiful to see people's life through window of their blogs. I do have my two blogs too. They get fair share of readership too. So it's all good.
Now second topic I wanted to write about was our selective conservatism..
1)I am okay as long as my son marries a women.
2)I am okay as long as my son marries a native fellow women.
3)I am okay as long as my son marries someone of my region.
4)I am okay as long as my son marries upper caste.
5)I am okay as long as my son marries my caste person.
6)I am okay as long as my son marries my sub castes and upper level sub castes.
7)I am okay as long as my son doesn’t marry as per his wish..
See in above seven lines I have mentioned an evolution for seven generations. Right so we have selective conservatism for everything in life. Marriage being very obvious one, we do have other fetishes like.. Food preferences, Religious preferences, Social preferences.. I don’t know what's the origin of the selective behavior. But we certainly cannot learn it from nature. Nature never bestows its resources selectively. It can be best described random than anything.
Then maybe we learnt it from our survival struggle. I will have my preferred food as long as it’s available. Then I will choose something which is next to my favorite food.
Before I conclude this post, it’s important for me to mention, that I am fighting a belief that women tend to blog about personal life than anything else. I have read it in couple of places. That women are more likely to write emotional and non-practical blogs. I beg to differ. Women may carry their feeling on their sleeves. But when they outshine in this "dog eat dog " corporate world. They sure are not getting any mileage for being emotional.. what say folks?
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 | Nice blog Ria, I just had a good laugh when i read your 7 points about marriage. I have two myself, and in this day and age, i will stick with point 1. I will be happy if my sons got married to a women!!  |
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| |  Hi Ria, Glad to read your multiple-topic post. You have rightly pointed out how we adjust with time and situations. I guess flexibility and tolerance are the best fruits of experiences. And hey, who says that women blogs are all about personal life, no way. I think its generally a nice mixture of thoughts and current events. If I am not mistaken, some of best blogger awards went to women in different aspects. |
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| |  Dear ria, i dont know your son's age but here i am ready if my daughter marries at all yaar, i have been hunting the grounds with bow and arrow hello nee varuvai yena, NEE VARUVAI YENA, so it is consolation to see ur just starting..sunkan |
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| |  Ria I am praying and hoping my son chooses option 1.. that is he marries a woman... these days .. OMG.. so most moms like me will be thankful if atleast option 1 works out:) I tend to blog only on personal life and such topics.. :) keep blogin:) |
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| |  Hi Ria, Nice blog topic the list of seven sent me into peals of laughter - how miserable to even think like that. No wonder as women we are so emotional - we want control! Why would a mother obsess so much about her son's marriage -she should just be proud about the person he has become and when he is mentally ready to find a partner have confidence it would be someone who he will be comfortable to live with and be happy for him and ready to welcome this change in his life - and also warmly welcome his choice as its his choice. I think we have to have confidence in our kids rather than undermine their capability to find their own mate. But then what does a mother whose identity is tied to that of her children do when they branch out and start making their own choices # 7 i guess. When we tie our identites to our kids we don't allow them to grow out of the banyan shadow (figuratively). Then we hang on and try to control. But i think that genre of women are hopefully becoming a minority (!!!) with the opportunities available today that never existed 20 odd years ago to express and find your own individuality. Times change and i guess we have to change too -or become nodes of misery. Do you mean Women only rise in the corporate world when they shelve their emotions?? But when they outshine in this "dog eat dog " corporate world. They sure are not getting any mileage for being emotional.. what say folks? I think emotion is also a passion and that passion is a propeller to greater heights. As a sex we are emotional and see things through a point of veiw that is emotional. But i doubt surpressing it can really make a success out of a woman. Staying true to your own self is more likely to get you to success rather than changing who you are to get where you want to be. When you take away a quality that is you to transform into something that is far from you then what of you is left to enjoy the new you. You can be a successful homemaker and a successful career woman only if you can clearly know your own self and be true to that My take on your topic. Thanks for the mental exercise  it was fun. best wishes preethi |
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| |  Vandhana I know its kindda funny. But I have had horror experiences seeing my fellow passenger Gay couple indulging in great display. I remember first time I almost spilled my coffee seeing it.. Ranganayaki Yeah very true abotu Women's interest on varied subjects. I am thinking of starting a economy focussed blog on wordpress. So I guess I will have my share of contentment. Sunkan, My son is not even born now These are just scenarios I have seen around my aunt and own cousins. I was like your daughter four years back. My parents were really worried If I will marry. I used to tell them, I personally need to get the vibe that Marriage is my next transition. Else I wanna wait. So I can understand your feelings.I can visualize you with  and arrow.. Wow! AC, He he .Times have really changed. We are even worried about basic premise now. I can imagine your concern ria |
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| | Preethi, Thanks for chipping in. Its indeed pleasure to read your take. I think you are right on both the things. Giving kids enough freedom to choose their own being takes a very well rounded and wise person. I agree about your stand on women 's success in corporate world. When I was saying women do have to compensate for their emotional being while fighting in corporate world. I mean they have to doubly fight a struggle, where for one they are struggling to excel in the said field and for two they have to fight people's paradigm that since she is women , she will break down easily dealing conflicting and tough issues. But I agree with your take, that for anyone to achieve anything larger than themselves , they need to first be completely in synch with their being. If nature was in chaos of itself, it could have never built a wonderful , harmonious ecology. Same way, for us to leave a powerful legacy, very first step starts at revelling in our own being, than waiting for other close relations like spouse, kids or any other relative to verify our being. Ria |
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| | Thanks Ria, you are right i did not quite get it the first time .Times are a changing and women don't really have to try so hard to prove themselves. I am so amazed whenever i go to india first thing i do is buy all the magazines and what i see is India is evolving. Last two trips i picked up the Franchising world magazine and was so happy to see so many woman entrepreneurs. Now i feel we who stay out have to keep up with the changing scenario too.. Nice meeting you and look forward to more thought provoking pieces. best wishes preethi |
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| |  That was so many topics at once.... Random thoughts - but each one was relevant. As for the evolution - hehe..That's all we can demand from sons and daughters one day. Besides if we accept instead of fighting, ti opens doors to bliss. Women and Emotions - There are other women who read it anyways. Things that interest majority of women are different from what attract men. Biological setup is so. Mileage for being emotional ? - You mean in corporate world ? - Do you feel that women are cut out for caring professions like nursing or non-profit orgs, which is where this EQ comes out shining. In "dog eat dog world" some of them do well...You must read Cathie Black's "Basic Black"..I am sure you ll enjoy the read. It s self help book but with lot of relevant points about women being on top. |
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| |  Seth Godin..What a great Marketing guy! He has shaped a lot of my thinking as a marketer. For those wondering who is Seth Godin, here is his blog.. http://sethgodin.typepad.com/ Btw, you truly are a renaissance lady - you are just at ease talking about Taz as you are about Seth Godin. Also, you need to write a blog post about time management tips from ria. |
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