Your Public Relationship Quotient !!!!
After IQ and EQ, how about a PRQ ( Public Relationships Quotient) 
..Where do we stand ?
Not many of us realize the importance of making new friends and create public relations. Not many of us realize the need for friends/ associates/ companions / partners and the interesting aspects we ll come across through them.
Every new person we add to our life may carry a new dimension, new perspective, new information ( sometimes when you need it the most) new friendship, new business or even new relationship. I see some people constantly mailing chatting and building relationship, which may become stronger as days pass by. In this modern day world one cannot afford to be socially inept or socially cut from rest of the planet.
Fear of Rejection ? - Common folks, we face bigger problems and even bigger rejections. Why care about it even before you start ? Also the chances of rejection by other party are really less given that it'll be in his/her best interests to be open to new people or may he/she is also looking for a good partner to talk or a friend, especially in social settings.
Being alone is never fun. One cannot wait for friends to come and speak to them. The efforts to create bonds should happen from our side. The benefits are too good to be missed.
Stage -2
At next level, opening up to friends takes guts. It creates dilemma as to how much should one open up. All of us differ on this one. Some open up faster and others take all the time. It's up to each one of us. We can ensure safety, do some back ground checking and introduce ourselves. If it s a safe setting like, friends through office or neighborhood or family friends, there is no reason as to why one shouldn't approach them.
I would also like to touch upon another aspect i.e. staying in touch. Friendship / Any relationship requires care and time. Calling or dropping a mail once in a while is a must if one wants to maintain the relationship. It needs some priority too. We are talking about sincere inquiry here, not a social obligation or forced one. I think this will happen naturally.
Fill up the pregnant pauses by some interesting questions. See "The Fine art of Small Talk" by Debra Fine. She has given lot of tips on conversation topics.
Dear iLites,
Do you talk to strangers in safe situations ? Share your tips which others may find useful.
..Where do we stand ?Not many of us realize the importance of making new friends and create public relations. Not many of us realize the need for friends/ associates/ companions / partners and the interesting aspects we ll come across through them.
Every new person we add to our life may carry a new dimension, new perspective, new information ( sometimes when you need it the most) new friendship, new business or even new relationship. I see some people constantly mailing chatting and building relationship, which may become stronger as days pass by. In this modern day world one cannot afford to be socially inept or socially cut from rest of the planet.
Fear of Rejection ? - Common folks, we face bigger problems and even bigger rejections. Why care about it even before you start ? Also the chances of rejection by other party are really less given that it'll be in his/her best interests to be open to new people or may he/she is also looking for a good partner to talk or a friend, especially in social settings.
Being alone is never fun. One cannot wait for friends to come and speak to them. The efforts to create bonds should happen from our side. The benefits are too good to be missed.
Stage -2
At next level, opening up to friends takes guts. It creates dilemma as to how much should one open up. All of us differ on this one. Some open up faster and others take all the time. It's up to each one of us. We can ensure safety, do some back ground checking and introduce ourselves. If it s a safe setting like, friends through office or neighborhood or family friends, there is no reason as to why one shouldn't approach them.
I would also like to touch upon another aspect i.e. staying in touch. Friendship / Any relationship requires care and time. Calling or dropping a mail once in a while is a must if one wants to maintain the relationship. It needs some priority too. We are talking about sincere inquiry here, not a social obligation or forced one. I think this will happen naturally.
Fill up the pregnant pauses by some interesting questions. See "The Fine art of Small Talk" by Debra Fine. She has given lot of tips on conversation topics.
Dear iLites,
Do you talk to strangers in safe situations ? Share your tips which others may find useful.
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Vidya,
A good topic. there is a saying in tamil vaai ulla pillai pizhaitukollum...( a person who can talk can survive anywhere).
For me, I more of a observer. I just drop in cues and the rest is history. people do open up to me.
The fear of criticism,rejection and being made fun of makes us think twice before opening even to the close friends.
Yes, I sincerely enquire about the well being even if it is the first time.
A public relationship quotient is a definite must today.Posted 11th March 2008 at 09:12 PM by Shanvy
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Dear vidya
A very nice topic and interesting one to me.always............and iam VAI ULLA PILLAI.......
..i mingle very easily even with new face.......and i will bceome their very good frined also in short time........still maintaining good friendship with my school mates, school teachers, college friends, still with their parents e ven though my friends live in long distance.....I cannot wait for anybody to come and speak to me....i dont mind keeping the first step........
I very often used to tell to my friends.........THERE SHLD BE NO EGO, PRESTIGE BETWEN FRIENDS.........and i dont have all that
so i dont have any fear of criticism or rejection.............i will accept their comments wholeheartedly..........and so far...to be honest...no body have REJECTED OR CRITICISED me...........they too adore my frienship and cherish...........
I will very sincerely, wholheartedly very often enquire their whereabouts............
Iam a philanthropist.............Posted 11th March 2008 at 10:22 PM by latamurali -
Shanvy,
It's called gift of the gab. Being silent is fine I suppose, being reluctant to talk or make friends is wht is not..
People opening up to you - Good Comfort level QuotientPosted 12th March 2008 at 09:43 AM by MeenLoch - Lata,
That's exactly how I am and I think we should see it as an asset. A balancing force in my house is my DH. He takes time, makes sure it s safe to open up etc.
Rejection or Criticizing - In my post I am talking about new people we come across. For example, sometime we talk to someone new and she/he doesnt respond with so much enthusiasm. Now this cannot become a reason for us, never to approach strangers. In safe setting it's okay to make new friends. This rejection may not be because of us, but because of the other person here.
A good CLQ for you too. (Comfort Level Quotient)Posted 12th March 2008 at 09:47 AM by MeenLoch - Good one Meenloch.
I am an extrovert on the surface but an introvert inside. I feel comfortable talking to people in general. I have a deep liking for interaction with ppl. I guess my comfort in striking a conversation even w/strangers comes from this liking. The other thing that I think helps me in not feeling uncomfortable in breaking the ice is, I do not fear much how people may judge me. They may not judge me positively as I would like them to, but it does not bother me 'cos I genuinely feel that everyone likes being talked to so why not have and give them a few enjoyable minutes by talking to them rather than blankly staring at each other.
However, when it comes to sharing my deep thoughts or opinions, I am an introvert. I do not share these very easily and think a lot before I do. I am always there for my friends for anything they may want to share with me. And I will see them through their issues, if any. But when it comes to me asking for help, I rely on myself first and very very reluctantly ask someone else for help. I don't think it has to be like that, but I can't help it!
I have a huge number of people that I interact with due to my nature. I love it and it keeps me thriving. I am the kind who is always in touch with the people I have come across, no matter how long ago it may have been.
SS
PS: Thanks for your appreciative mention of my comments in Shanvy's "Green eyed monster" blog!Posted 13th March 2008 at 09:56 AM by SoaringSpirit
