Judge you ?
What if one morning we wake up and like in this movies called ' 50 first dates' we do not know about anyone, the mind is empty. We do not know people we met in recent past and we have forgotten all the unpleasant memories we had with some.
Isn't it those sad memories which pull us down even if the "present" is actually fun filled and problems-free ?
Based on some scientific evidence and statistical figures, it is said that women are more prone to judge than men. When they first meet someone, they start forming opinions, notions and judgments about this new acquaintance. (She must be smart, HE must be rich, She must be cunning, He appears intelligent, She appears lazy, It's okay for him to be so, after all he s the breadwinner)... They probably try to fit this person in the category that they are already aware of, good or bad. ..They continue to interact with some pre-conceived notions.
Wouldn't it be nice if one doesnt do that and we see everyone with a fresh perspective ? Excuse me ? Who are we to judge ? God ?
Not judging about anyone anything has it s own advantages. Sometimes it ll do good if we see our old friends and relatives with new perspective.
We ll feel happier about everyone around and as easy it is to say this, it is tough to follow.
What do you all feel about this ?
Isn't it those sad memories which pull us down even if the "present" is actually fun filled and problems-free ?
Based on some scientific evidence and statistical figures, it is said that women are more prone to judge than men. When they first meet someone, they start forming opinions, notions and judgments about this new acquaintance. (She must be smart, HE must be rich, She must be cunning, He appears intelligent, She appears lazy, It's okay for him to be so, after all he s the breadwinner)... They probably try to fit this person in the category that they are already aware of, good or bad. ..They continue to interact with some pre-conceived notions.
Wouldn't it be nice if one doesnt do that and we see everyone with a fresh perspective ? Excuse me ? Who are we to judge ? God ?
Not judging about anyone anything has it s own advantages. Sometimes it ll do good if we see our old friends and relatives with new perspective.
We ll feel happier about everyone around and as easy it is to say this, it is tough to follow.
What do you all feel about this ?
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 |  I have to agree that women do tend to be more judgemental.. I think most men are more easy going but to get along with some women..OMG..just my opinion..It would really make life easier for those around us if we can be less judgemental ..interesting topic.. |
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| | We judge cos we are not God. And sweetheart, men are equally judgemental. And for them the yardstick is longer. |
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| |  AC and Vidya, I feel 'what is this person thinking of me', especially when I am talking to a woman and that too in the first few conversations I am subconsciously aware of this judgmental nature. With men, there were fewer such experiences.....with most men it's easy as AC says. They don't care as to who bought his wife what, how intelligent or dumb someone is, if someone is a spendthrift or miser. It bothers them lesser. .Don't you think so ? Old grumpy bosses and uncle scrooges are exceptions. Also nosy men ( sounds like an oxymoron, but there are some such men too), one has to be careful. |
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| |  Being a judge novidya, Have you seen babies not feeling comfortable with some and very very comfortable with others even if it is just minutes...is it because of being judgemental..... I think otherwise....god has given us that special antennae to judge, of course going over board is a individual's character flaw....and the frequency limitof the antennae is more in case of women...and few exceptions in men also.  this capacity gives you an insight into other person, but being judgmental of all his thoughts or action is your own fault..... (I will not go into this personally as I have more sensory perceptions  when it comes to people...i can judge the person on the first meet and to the point blank accuracy which lands me in more problems...all the time but I try to keep it compartmentalized...it does not colour all my views of the person..confusing, hope not...) |
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| | but I try to keep it compartmentalized...it does not colour all my views of the person.. Found that line interesting. So you say, some amount of being judgemental is necessary to get insights into people around. You are sort of fine tuning my post. It's important to see a person in whole than here and there, but the first few impression ( which may or may not be true), decide if he/she will be my friend or more than that. It perhaps is a character flaw to cloud ourselves too much sometimes. 50 first dates type is going to be ideal. No grudges, no worries and no pains.... Many people have negative experiences outweighing positive ones when it comes to their social life...in which case, a fresh slate every morning will do good to pysche. |
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| |  Its intresting. I am reading this book "Blink". and Author in it says. It s a natural and scientific process for mind to make snap judgements. His premise is, we should listen to our snap judgement more often than not. Most of the times, these judgements are correct. I am yet to try this. But the concept and author's reasoning made sense to me. Ria |
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| | Is this a coincidence. A friend asked me to read this book. She did not read this post of mine and she also said that it is a compelling book. I am going to pick it right away. In this post's context , I feel sometimes it's nice not to judge a person based on one or two of his actions. We may or may not be right. Sometimes in certain cases we do not give second chance to a person interacting with us, becasue we have already JUDGED them, prejudiced about them. Sometimes we are caught in interactions or relationships we cannot forget and move away from, because we did not like this person. Thnaks for the pointer ria. |
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