How do you control anger ?
A simple question " How do you manage your sudden energy burst due to anger/ disappointment ? "
Some of the steps that I have come across so far are
1. 'Close the door, hit a pillow hard, real hard to vent the negative energy out'. I think it works.
2. Next method is to 'Clean the house', using up all the energy. Or do some pending physical work, which requires time and energy.
3. Also one can write a journal/ write out what she/he felt. This also helps in diffusing the anger.
4. Pondichery mother said, " do not give expression or form to anger, it grows further if you do"
We do not like it, when we have lashed out words, it creates cracks and it gets difficult to collect the pieces of the broken glass, doesn't it ?
This adrenaline rush can be used in a better manner.
Some of the steps that I have come across so far are
1. 'Close the door, hit a pillow hard, real hard to vent the negative energy out'. I think it works.
2. Next method is to 'Clean the house', using up all the energy. Or do some pending physical work, which requires time and energy.
3. Also one can write a journal/ write out what she/he felt. This also helps in diffusing the anger.
4. Pondichery mother said, " do not give expression or form to anger, it grows further if you do"
We do not like it, when we have lashed out words, it creates cracks and it gets difficult to collect the pieces of the broken glass, doesn't it ?
This adrenaline rush can be used in a better manner.
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Hi Meenloch,
If u meditate also ur anger is controlled I found out.Posted 18th February 2008 at 09:26 PM by madhu11
Updated 18th February 2008 at 10:07 PM by madhu11 -
Meens I have tried and nothing works ..i am really very very short tempered..every day i thank god for sending my husband to me who to this day has "put up" with me..will continue so for the rest of life..nowadays I dont even try to control anger..so what if i am angry I think i am entitled to it..dont yu? maybe i am shocking u talking like this and maybe i should give a big lecture on how to control anger?????? hahaha..Posted 19th February 2008 at 01:04 PM by Anandchitra -
Madhu, meditation de-stresses you, relaxes nerves and works well for anger. I have seen it in myself.
Feeling entitled to be angry - That's so common dear. I write down long mails and save them as drafts and eventually delete them, if I am angry at that person. I do talk about the matter, but not at the fit of the moment. Once I mellow down words are relatively better.
...Lecture eh ? Go ahead !!Posted 19th February 2008 at 01:15 PM by MeenLoch - MeenLoch - Your idea is good - writing a draft mail and not sending it, but deleting it when cool. I should try it.Posted 19th February 2008 at 06:18 PM by Nivedi
- Vidya,
I'd definitely try this out...sometimes I even think if I have some disorder and do I need a therapist...poor DH..sometimes I even think is it my DH's fate that I came into his life...really I need some remedy immly to put an end to this....
let me try this out..Posted 11th March 2008 at 09:34 PM by shravanthika
