The Pervert Touch
Posted 15th December 2008 at 11:36 AM by malspie
Friends,
Today I will blog on a very important chapter of a female child! This blog hopefully should open the cobwebs of many minds and start shooting the lessons which I learnt at a tender age! Do read further for a complete insight on the captioned subject.
I was growing up fast from a baby girl to a woman. Like every mother, she was anxious, as I was in 3rd Standard and had started showing signs of growing in to a woman. Amma’s worry was not my concern nor was I eager to know about the biological changes taking place in my body. I was dragged to our family physician. My mother poured her concern to the doc. He examined me and it was a bit awkward. My cute lemon yellow frock was to be lifted and I had to! My Ammai had her eyebrows knotted and I am still wondering why this examination. I have no fever, no vomiting, no cold, no cough, Amma is worrying for nothing! The girl in me is still alive though she is going to vanish in few days or years, I am too young to decide.
Doc after his examination spoke to my mom, later I was not under any medication. I saw my mom have long quiet conversations with my Appa. My Appa’s attitude towards me had not changed; I was still jumping and clapping my hands, though my ammai’s worry was a concern! Why is she so worried about me? I have scored 93% marks, done well in my unit tests, then why this worry, I have no bad remarks in School Calendar, I was perplexed.
Ammai decided to have a chat with me. She asked me to sit and listen to all that she says attentively and patiently. I wondered where I was wrong, but still gave it a shot!
The first thing Ammai thought me was “Pervert Touch”. I was given an explanation of why boys are boys and girls are girls. She pointed out to the small biological change on my body and told me that I will grow up to be like her. I will be wearing a sari soon and will also get to use her make-up kit! I was thrilled, how much I loved to use her make-up kit, those lipsticks! My heart pounded. May be she was adding the flavors to make things lighter for me. She again came back to the “Pervert Touch”. Now, no hugging maternal or paternal uncles for that matter Appas and Ammas friends too, who are called as Uncles! Even if they do, I have to keep a check on their palm and the finger movements and immediately tell Ammai, if anyone tries to reach my new found biological growth in my body! If I disobey her, I will not be a good girl in the books of God and he will have a very strong punishment lined up for me! “Ammai stronger than the punishment, you line up”, I asked her. “Yes”, she shot back. That could be worse than a Napoleon treatment, I sealed my straying thoughts.
I was in 3rd standard and she could not explain to me much at that tender age, her few sentences of asserting alertness did help me a lot. I had some of my Appa’s friends holding me a bit tight etc.. I would scream for my Ammai and tell her, “Uncle is giving me that ‘Pervert Touch’. Today, I feel how embarrassed that man would have been. Yes, when a girl grows up much earlier, she has to face the wrath of the popping eyes of few men around. I was growing faster than a sprout and I salute my Ammai for giving me those teachings. She was not bred in a MetroCity but knew how to tutor her kids. I would pass on all these messages to my friends when they were in 6th standard, yes; they were a bit late compared to me. “My mummy does not speak anything like that”, they would say.
I was busy protecting my friends from ‘Pervert Touch’ and harsh punishment of the Lord!
Ammai you were so advanced, I salute you!
I am happy to have learnt what those ‘Pervert Touch’ meant! If you have still not given your kid a lesson of it, make sure you do! My mom did!
(Ammai means Mother
Appa means Father)
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I have a girl of 11 years and still I was hesitated to talk to her regarding this subject.
But one day I braked the ice and I told her to take care of her from boys. But I had to rehearse so much for that. I can understand your Ammai's feelings. She is great. Event to 11 year girl, I found it difficult to explain certain things, but to a 3rd standard girl, she narrated it so beautifully.
Mothers are always great.
AndalPosted 15th December 2008 at 11:24 PM by swathi14
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Thank you Mals dear for this helpful blog.....Posted 16th December 2008 at 12:07 AM by Moonbeams - Hi Mals,
Wonderful blog. This is a very fundamental lesson which should be given to girls. Nowadays even boys have to be given such lesson. My mom was actually very shy talking to me openly about these things but then she always used to give me hints which I understood. Then friends are another source of information.
Almost everywhere we go we do find such peopel who are just there to have a touch. Sometimes I do not understand what feelings these kind of men have. They are not bothered if the lady is a middle-aged or married women or if it is a small girl. All are same for them.
Once again thanks....Posted 16th December 2008 at 02:02 AM by AmritaPoorni - Nice blog....My sister and I also were educated by our mom when we were about that age...Its such an advanage to have a mother who encourages such open communication on these sensitive topics...Kudos to your ammai and my amma too:)Posted 16th December 2008 at 03:58 AM by enlightened
- Nice and very informative blog.Having two girls ,iam getting ready for this talk very soon and to protect them from that pervert touch.Moms are always great and they are the first ones to realize any change in our life.
AnuPosted 16th December 2008 at 08:13 AM by Anuparas
