IndusLadies - Blogs - Reminiscence Bump and More...! by AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/ IndusLadies is a global online community of Indian Ladies. Discuss and share ideas about topics interesting to Indian Women. They discuss about Cooking,Recipes,Pregnancy,Parenting,Shopping,Articles,Snippets,jokes,work from home,marriage and family,etc. en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:48:46 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.IndusLadies.com/forums/images/006/misc/rss.jpg IndusLadies - Blogs - Reminiscence Bump and More...! by AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/ <![CDATA[Men Don't Understand Women!]]> http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/men-dont-understand-women-1447/ Tue, 17 Feb 2009 09:52:03 GMT Cupid's day ended with Roses and Romance. Now day to day reality seeps in! Here is a glimpse...Have a hearty laugh! Share the scenarios from your home too...
(The cartoon is my interpretation of a forwarded email many years ago.)
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]]> AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/men-dont-understand-women-1447/ <![CDATA[Cupid's Arrow- 2009!- A love story!]]> http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/cupids-arrow-2009-love-story-1432/ Sat, 14 Feb 2009 03:40:42 GMT இனிது இனிது காதல் இனிது


The air is full of love, the florist sells only bunches of roses(of course the prices are exorbitant), tables all booked in the bay view restaurants, valentines rushing to buy gift at the last minute.....on this eve of VDay!

How many of us believe the story of cupid's arrow striking and and we falling in love in a microsecond? Today's scientists have researched the "mechanism" of love.(I wonder who will fund for such researches....I'm sure he/she is/was in love!)
And to my surprise Love involves only the brain not the heart. (Or may be...since we give our heart to our love, we are only left with the brain...(does it makes any sense?) Or may be we fall on our head (over heels), the brain is only involved...:idea)

It is not anymore the simple he meets her, she meets him; cupid's arrow strikes and they fall in love, logic. And believe me, all the true characteristics of falling in love has a scientific or rather a hormonal explanation behind them. I am trying to explain the complexity(what more can you expect in this 4 letter word) from my limited understanding capacity.


Love is Blind!

(Though I don't believe in this, it is the first 'curse' that comes from those who oppose/hate love )

True. When a person is in love, a portion of the brain called frontal cortex (at the forehead region) is deactivated. This portion, dearies, helps us in our planning and judging abilities. This deactivation masks the flaws of the person being loved.

Lovers loose sleep and appetite!

(That time is spent fruitfully in practicing the sweet nothings for the next day :hide:, and replaying the previous day's SNs , don't you all agree my friends?)

Seratonin is a chemical produced in brain and it is responsible for our moods, emotions, sleep and appetite. When one falls in love, the secretion of seratonin drops dramatically....and now you know the rationale behind the loss of sleep and appetite.

Being in love is stressful!

(Oh My God...repeated pinching from friends to bring us from our dreamland is surely stressful!)

Researches like Prof. Marazzitti give the hormonal reason behind it. They have found that Cortisol and Norepinephrin (the two buddies causing stress) are realeased in higher levels in those who are smitten. Isn't it logic enough for the palpitation, excitement and high BP?

Now coming to the HOT stuff.... Romantic love is an emotion!

(We are after all human beings, the creatures with heaps of emotions...so what's new here?) )

Our experts like Helen Fisher, an expert on the science of human attraction(how come I never have heard about this faculty during my time) tell otherwise. The middle of our brain has the Ventral Tegmental Area (VTA) that becomes a busy body when we are in love.This VTA releases Dopamine....inducing the romantic feelings like pleasure, want, craving and motivation. VTA is a teardrop shaped portion of the brain (Is there any love without tears?) The VTA along with 3 other tiny parts of the brain forms a circuit(ventral tegmental area (VTA), the nucleus accumbens, the ventral pallidum and raphe nucleus.).This lits up when a person is in love. And...the spark is kept alive by hugs, kisses and intimacy.

Love results in bonding, trust and attachment!

(Do we have anyother choice..?)

Technically, the Oxytocin, nick named as "Love Hormone" is the director here. This is produced by the hypothalamus part of the brain, induced by touching, hugging etc etc. The love hormone take cares of the trust, bond and attachment and other emotional aspects of the person in love.


Before you all come to strike me with arrows...I should stop typing. For those who are deceived by the title, yet again and came here to read a hot romance...sorry guys...it's yours truly's blog:thumbsup who knows nothing about penning a story.
For my friends who know that I will blabber something in the likes of this, yet came here to view...Thanks for the faith you have in meBig Laugh.

Happy Valentines Day ! Lit up the love circuit with flowers to your Valentines!
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]]> AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/cupids-arrow-2009-love-story-1432/ Why are you angry?! http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/why-are-you-angry-1386/ Sat, 31 Jan 2009 01:49:25 GMT Dear friends, Sharing with you another speechless moment. Do you encounter similar moments everyday? Do share...! Dear friends,

Sharing with you another speechless moment. Do you encounter similar moments everyday? Do share...!
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]]> AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/why-are-you-angry-1386/ Are you an Ox? ....I am a Tiger! http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/you-ox-i-am-tiger-1314/ Mon, 26 Jan 2009 14:33:58 GMT What would you feel if you were a baby born at the stroke of midnight, as the Lunar New Year of Ox dawns. Well, I can hear you answering that "no matter what, I will continue to sleep and cry to be fed and what do I care if it is the year of Ox or Tiger".
But you wont give the same answer if you were a Chinese and look at the 2 Lunar New Year babies born at midnight, showered with media attention and gifts including cash of S$8888 and a Gold pated Ox worth S$398.(their lucky numbers, of course) Still are you saying you don't care? No?!

The ox is deemed as a symbol of resilience (how apt could the time be, with recession and all?).It is the second animal in the chinese zodiac.

What about the Ox people , I mean the people born in an Ox year, including the two newborns this year? Kind, caring, logical, positive and have their feet firmly on the ground.Now close your eyes and think of those with the above characteristics.

And Bull's eye! You got it right.

1. Barack Obama: I dont have anything to add as you all already will be fed up with the year long campaigning, then the victory news and now the news about him retaking the oath.

2. Michael Phelps (23): You all know him with the news flashes in the Olympics, who has won 16 Olympic medals altogether. Diagnosed with ADHD(Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), in his childhood and selected as USOC's sportsman of the year. Last week he has told the media that he would never again swim in eight events again,as he was hurting.

3. Artist Vincent Van Gogh: As I hear the name, I think of his self portrait with a bandaged ear which gives me goosebumps each time. It was said that he cut off his ear in desperation resulting from the departure of his lover /partner/associate Paul Guaguin. (I laughed out loud as I read a cheeky answer, " Due to Peer pressure", when I googled it) His works are mainly portraits, with vibrant colours and faces painted at odd angles and planes. I am also sad to know that he sold only one painting when he was alive while posthumously, one of his paintings was sold for $82.5 million.

4. Walter Elias Disney: The multiple Academy award winning director/producer etc and co founder of Walt Disney Company which generates, $35 billion a year. Who would not laugh at mickey and its antics, even today? I especially love the fantasia, a 1940's animated movie. The DVD (which was released in 2000) is the most often watched one by me and Abhi.

I should stop before I rattle the list of Ox people who are well known for their resilience.
Still you don't care about zodiac signs and human characteristics? Fine. Let us see who are born in Ox year among the ILites. I see that I finally got your interest.

2009,1997,1985,1973,1961,1949,1937,1925, 1913 1901-These are the OX years.Would be happy to hear from the OX ILites and ILites with OX loved Ones.

I end with "Gong Xi Fa Cai" to all dear ILites and let us all be resilient to sail through the tough times and wait for the Tiger Year coming next.

And yes, I am a Tiger! (The tiger people are predicted to be irresistible due to their magnetic characters, Tempestous and courageous yet soft and mysterious) Now tell me my dear friends, "Am I a true Tiger?"
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]]> AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/you-ox-i-am-tiger-1314/ Kids....! http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/kids-1348/ Sun, 25 Jan 2009 13:23:51 GMT Dear All Sharing with you some speechless moments with Abhi! Dear All

Sharing with you some speechless moments with Abhi!
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]]> AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/kids-1348/ Flabby flabs! http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/flabby-flabs-1325/ Thu, 22 Jan 2009 05:20:47 GMT I am not a woman if I do not talk about tummy tucks, trimmy B...s and juicy gossips. Did not give much thought about weight as I was an underweight until my delivery, and then I reached my ideal weight. I would polish of ghee sweets and cakes/desserts, gobble up Burgers and fries and complete... I am not a woman if I do not talk about tummy tucks, trimmy B...s and juicy gossips.

Did not give much thought about weight as I was an underweight until my delivery, and then I reached my ideal weight. I would polish of ghee sweets and cakes/desserts, gobble up Burgers and fries and complete the goodies with gallons of coffee concentrated with kilos of creamer and sugar without a second thought.

But...hitting the magic number 30, fate started laughing at me. Metabolism tickled to stand still and needle in the weighing machine tipped in the opposite side. (If it had happened 20 years back, how much joy that would have brought to my worried parents who struggled throughout my childhood to improve my weight) Couple of surgeries and antibiotics also did their precise contribution of adding up the kilos(I dont count it in pounds) The worst(best) part is the delicious food that my Mom and MIL heaps on my plate and their laments about my eating habit (korikkirathu) during our trips to home. Yummy... yum! but Tummy.... Hmmmm!tsk

And now came my turn to turn my eyes towards the uphill task of exercising, unheard word of dieting, to get rid of the unsightly BBs, TTs, FAs (sorry for the sms form. I leave it to your imagination to interpret.)

I am always amazed to see ladies with trimmed arms. It shows they are working out their entire body. Some keep the body trim and firm but their arms are unsightly and especially if they wear sleeveless....oh my Gosh!

Some celebrities I admire are: (not in order)
1. Shoba De (62):
Bold writer and a revolutionist in Indian English fiction while some think that she is writing too much (or rather too hot) I love the way she carries herself in sarees and all with sleeveless blouses.(She introduced her Designer Sarees Range-CockTail in a Boutique in Singapore last year)

2. Suhaasini Maniratnam (47)
Actress and wife of director Maniratnam. I like the armlets she wear. Wonderful collection.

3. Rekha(54)
Daughter of the legend Gemini Ganesan and a well know actress. Personally not my favourite, but admired and vouched for her fitness by an insider.

4. Poh Choo( 50)
She is my friend, philosopher and guide and a very dear friend in Singapore. Her dieting and exercising habits are amazing.


These four come to my mind at this moment. Please share your favourite trim persons . Would love to hear them all.

Would like to end this post with my actual story of exercising. I don't want to explain.See for yourself in the attachment.:hide:
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]]> AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/flabby-flabs-1325/ <![CDATA[தி.ஜாவும் நானும்.....!]]> http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/a-1305/ Mon, 19 Jan 2009 04:54:22 GMT I will be a sinner if I do not start blogging about books and authors who have shaped me, disturbed me, consoled me, comforted me in the past and continue to do so ...!

நீண்ட பட்டியலில் என் முதல் பயணத்தை் தமிழிலும் தி. ஜா வுடனும் ஆரம்பிக்க விரும்புகிறேன்.
தி. ஜா வின் எழுத்து அறிமுகம் முதலில் ஏற்பட்டபோது ஒரு 10 அல்லது 12 வயதிருக்கும் எனக்கு. ஆரம்பப்பள்ளி நடத்தி வந்த என் தாத்தா பாட்டி ஓய்வு பெற்று, பள்ளியும் மூடப்பட்டபின் என் கோடைக்கால விடுமுறை நாட்களின் பொக்கிஷம் என்னுயரம் இருந்த பெரிய பெட்டியும், கண்ணாடிக் கதவுகளுடைய 5 புத்தக அலமாரிகளும் தான். பலமுறை சாப்பிடக் கூப்பிட்டனுப்பியபின்பும் வேறு வழியி்ன்றி
வீ ட்டிற்கு ஒரு புத்தகத்துடன் சென்று(ஓடி) அதில் ஒரு கண்ணும், தாலத்தில்(நெல்லைத் தமிழ்) ஒரு கண்ணுமாக விழுங்கியபின், பள்ளிக்கு ஓடிச் சென்று மூன்றாம் வகுப்பின் டீச்சர் நாற்காலியில் சாய்ந்து வாசித்த ஞாபகம் தடம் புரள்கிறது என்னுள்.
அந்தக் கோடையின் மதியத்தில் தான் “மோகமுள் “ முதல் அறிமுகம். எழுத்தின் வித்தியாசம் உணர்ந்த அறிவுக்கு கதை புரியும் வயதில்லை. Enid Blytonனும், அட்லாஸ்ஸும் என்னை ஆக்ரமித்துக்கொண்டன. சில வருடங்கள் கழித்து என் ஊரின் நூலகத்தில் மறுபடியும் மோகமுள்ளை சந்தித்து, பாபுவும், யமுனாவும், கும்பகோணமும் பல மாதங்கள் என்னுடன் வாழ்ந்தனர். மோகமுள் திரைப்படத்தை, கால்வாசிக்குமேல் பார்க்க முடியாமல் தொலைக்காட்சி பெட்டியை அணைத்துவிட்டு இருளில் நடுநிசிக்கு அப்புறமும் புரண்டுகொண்டே கழிந்தது அந்த இரவு.
அம்மணி, மரப்பசு, உயிர்தேன், அம்மா வந்தாள்

செம்பருத்தி... என ஒவ்வொன்றுும் அதிர்வலைகளை ஏற்படுத்தின. கும்பகோணத்தையும், தஞ்சையையும், காவிரியையும் பார்க்க வேண்டுமென்ற ஆவல் எல்லா தி. ஜாவின் வாசகரைப் போல என்னுள்ளும் கிளர்ந்தது. வாய்ப்பு கிடைத்து பார்த்தபோதோ.... பார்க்காமலேயே என் கற்பனைக் கும்பகோணத்துடனும், காவிரியுடனும் காலத்தை கழித்திருக்கலாமோ என்ற உணர்வு. லட்டில் இருக்கும் கிராம்பு பல்லில் கடிபட்டது போன்ற ஒரு அவஸ்தை!

போன வாரம் நூலகத்தில் இரவல் வாங்கிய ‘சிலிர்ப்பு’ –29 தேர்ந்தெடுத்த சிறுகதைகள், ஒவ்வொன்றிலும் கடைசி வரி சிலிர்ப்பை ஏற்படுத்தியது. அவைகளை எத்தனை முறை வாசித்தாலும் அலுக்கவில்லை எனக்கு. முதல் முறை ஏற்பட்ட மாதிரியே வயிறு குழைகிறது, கண்ணில் நீர் மல்க வைக்கிறது, நினைத்து நினைத்து விசும்ப வைக்கிறது. தி. ஜா மனிதர்களை நல்லவர், அல்லாதவர் எனப் பிரிக்க முயலாமல் நேசிக்கும் விதம் அசர வைக்கிறது. அவர் எழுதியுள்ள காலகட்டத்தில் பிறக்கவில்லையெனினும் அதை சுவைக்கும் அனுபவத்தை, தஞ்சை தமிழின் எள்ளலை, கொஞ்சலை, கெஞ்சலை அனுபவிக்க முடிகிறது.

தி. ஜாவின் வார்த்தைகளில், “ எனக்கே எனக்காக எழுதுவதைப் பற்றி என்ன சொல்ல முடியும்? காதலின் இன்பம், ஏக்கம், எதிர் பார்ப்பு, ஒன்றிப் போதல், வேதனை- எல்லாம் இதிலும் இருக்கின்றன”----- எழுதிய அவருக்கு மட்டுமல்ல, படிக்கும் நமக்கும் இந்த உணர்வே ஏற்படுகிறது.

எப்போது தி. ஜாவை நினைத்தாலும், படித்தாலும் என் மனதில் ஒரு பாடல் ஓடிக்கொண்டே இருக்கு்ம்--- இப்போதும்...!

“மௌனத்தில் விளையாடும் மனசாட்சியே..”


We are stopping here for refreshments, Dear All, why don't you share your favourite authors/writers here with me during this break? And feel free to drop your valuable comments on this journey with me so far...language is not a barrier. ]]> AbhiSing http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/abhising/a-1305/