Why wont MEN cry???
Posted 4th April 2008 at 10:31 PM by Devika Menon
When I watch an emotional movie ,When I bid goodbye to my Mother, When my daughter cries because she's hurt herself , When I see a total stranger suffering , When my kids win a prize, When I am applauded for my efforts, When someone talks to me in harsh tones,.... One thing is sure... My eyes are wet.. There are tears streaming and God help ,they wont stop even if I want them to.
But here's my hubby, my brother, While i embarrasingly look all around me while watching an emotional movie ,with tears streaming down, and wonder who all are witnessing this sorrowful state of mine,
I catch the men around me be it my bro or hubby or even merely a relative or friend (men) not AFFECTED AT ALL. I wonder how can that be?. They never cry . Infact whenever I get an opportunity I ask them the reason and all they say is ,'Whats there to cry over this. ?' And here there's me , who at the slightest provocation, be it in happiness or sorrow , my tear ducts get overactive and I amDrowning in it. Why wont men cry ?They have a heart right , no doubt about it and a generous one says my experience., but do they not have tear ducts . Or are they merely very good in camouflaging and hiding their feelings?. Though honestly sometimes I wish I was more like them you know able to be a little more discreet about my feelings. Rather I guess women are like an open book, you can exactly read whats in our mind , be it good or bad and Men are like a puzzle,
youre always trying to solve whats in their mind.
Any idea friends, why Men wont cry?
Love,
Devika
But here's my hubby, my brother, While i embarrasingly look all around me while watching an emotional movie ,with tears streaming down, and wonder who all are witnessing this sorrowful state of mine,
I catch the men around me be it my bro or hubby or even merely a relative or friend (men) not AFFECTED AT ALL. I wonder how can that be?. They never cry . Infact whenever I get an opportunity I ask them the reason and all they say is ,'Whats there to cry over this. ?' And here there's me , who at the slightest provocation, be it in happiness or sorrow , my tear ducts get overactive and I amDrowning in it. Why wont men cry ?They have a heart right , no doubt about it and a generous one says my experience., but do they not have tear ducts . Or are they merely very good in camouflaging and hiding their feelings?. Though honestly sometimes I wish I was more like them you know able to be a little more discreet about my feelings. Rather I guess women are like an open book, you can exactly read whats in our mind , be it good or bad and Men are like a puzzle, youre always trying to solve whats in their mind.Any idea friends, why Men wont cry?
Love,
Devika
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Dear Devika,
Men do have emotions, they also feel sad, but they try to control tears, thinking that it is against manliness. They show anger, happiness, love and worries openly, but they only control weeping.
"Emotions live in the background of a man's life and the foreground of a woman's," says psychologist Josh Coleman, PhD, author of The Lazy Husband. "Testosterone dampens feelings in men, who compartmentalize and intellectualize more. Women seem naturally more in touch with their emotions, while men have to work at it."
This I got from google search. Men rather think women are puzzle and we think vice versa.
Let us wait and see what men folk has to say about this.
Love,
PSPosted 6th April 2008 at 04:10 AM by Pushpavalli Srinivasan
Updated 6th April 2008 at 04:12 AM by Pushpavalli Srinivasan -
Dear Pushpaji,
Thank you so much for stepping in. Yes youre right . Men and women cannot live without each other and when they are together they are busy trying desperatey to solve their respective puzzle.:))
Love,
DevikaPosted 6th April 2008 at 10:54 PM by Devika Menon -
Devika,
Men operate from right brain. Have you also observed that they are not great when it comes to people skills ?
Not crying must be nice from their side.
But I have also heard that men cry, only to their loved ones, definitely not as often as women, but once in a while they break down and that doesn't make them less of a man.
See here for interesting information on brain, male or female.Posted 7th April 2008 at 07:55 AM by MeenLoch - Dear Srividya,
Thanks for sharing the info. You see infact I notice that in all emotions be it anger, patience ,love etc.. women are more demonstrative than men .The link you provided was info enough.
Thanks for writing in.
Regards,
DevikaPosted 7th April 2008 at 08:00 AM by Devika Menon -
Nice Blog, Devika. It's true - I think men are not in touch with their emotions and look down upon crying as a female weakness. Back in college, I knew a few boys who were probably as sensitive as us girls but they were teased at and ridiculed by other boys. Such is the effect of this hypocrytic society :)Posted 7th April 2008 at 02:26 PM by CarpeDiem
