Why wont MEN cry???
Posted 4th April 2008 at 10:31 PM by Devika Menon
When I watch an emotional movie ,When I bid goodbye to my Mother, When my daughter cries because she's hurt herself , When I see a total stranger suffering , When my kids win a prize, When I am applauded for my efforts, When someone talks to me in harsh tones,.... One thing is sure... My eyes are wet.. There are tears streaming and God help ,they wont stop even if I want them to.
But here's my hubby, my brother, While i embarrasingly look all around me while watching an emotional movie ,with tears streaming down, and wonder who all are witnessing this sorrowful state of mine,
I catch the men around me be it my bro or hubby or even merely a relative or friend (men) not AFFECTED AT ALL. I wonder how can that be?. They never cry . Infact whenever I get an opportunity I ask them the reason and all they say is ,'Whats there to cry over this. ?' And here there's me , who at the slightest provocation, be it in happiness or sorrow , my tear ducts get overactive and I am
in it. Why wont men cry ?They have a heart right , no doubt about it and a generous one says my experience., but do they not have tear ducts . Or are they merely very good in camouflaging and hiding their feelings?. Though honestly sometimes I wish I was more like them you know able to be a little more discreet about my feelings. Rather I guess women are like an open book, you can exactly read whats in our mind , be it good or bad and Men are like a puzzle,
youre always trying to solve whats in their mind.
Any idea friends, why Men wont cry?
Love,
Devika
But here's my hubby, my brother, While i embarrasingly look all around me while watching an emotional movie ,with tears streaming down, and wonder who all are witnessing this sorrowful state of mine,
I catch the men around me be it my bro or hubby or even merely a relative or friend (men) not AFFECTED AT ALL. I wonder how can that be?. They never cry . Infact whenever I get an opportunity I ask them the reason and all they say is ,'Whats there to cry over this. ?' And here there's me , who at the slightest provocation, be it in happiness or sorrow , my tear ducts get overactive and I am in it. Why wont men cry ?They have a heart right , no doubt about it and a generous one says my experience., but do they not have tear ducts . Or are they merely very good in camouflaging and hiding their feelings?. Though honestly sometimes I wish I was more like them you know able to be a little more discreet about my feelings. Rather I guess women are like an open book, you can exactly read whats in our mind , be it good or bad and Men are like a puzzle, youre always trying to solve whats in their mind.Any idea friends, why Men wont cry?
Love,
Devika
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Comments
 |  Dear Devika, Men do have emotions, they also feel sad, but they try to control tears, thinking that it is against manliness. They show anger, happiness, love and worries openly, but they only control weeping. "Emotions live in the background of a man's life and the foreground of a woman's," says psychologist Josh Coleman, PhD, author of The Lazy Husband. "Testosterone dampens feelings in men, who compartmentalize and intellectualize more. Women seem naturally more in touch with their emotions, while men have to work at it." This I got from google search. Men rather think women are puzzle and we think vice versa. Let us wait and see what men folk has to say about this. Love, PS |
Posted 6th April 2008 at 04:10 AM by Pushpavalli Srinivasan  Updated 6th April 2008 at 04:12 AM by Pushpavalli Srinivasan |
| |  Dear Pushpaji, Thank you so much for stepping in. Yes youre right . Men and women cannot live without each other and when they are together they are busy trying desperatey to solve their respective puzzle.:)) Love, Devika |
| Posted 6th April 2008 at 10:54 PM by Devika Menon |
| |  Devika, Men operate from right brain. Have you also observed that they are not great when it comes to people skills ? Not crying must be nice from their side. But I have also heard that men cry, only to their loved ones, definitely not as often as women, but once in a while they break down and that doesn't make them less of a man. See here for interesting information on brain, male or female. |
| Posted 7th April 2008 at 07:55 AM by MeenLoch |
| | Dear Srividya, Thanks for sharing the info. You see infact I notice that in all emotions be it anger, patience ,love etc.. women are more demonstrative than men .The link you provided was info enough. Thanks for writing in. Regards, Devika |
| Posted 7th April 2008 at 08:00 AM by Devika Menon |
| |  Nice Blog, Devika. It's true - I think men are not in touch with their emotions and look down upon crying as a female weakness. Back in college, I knew a few boys who were probably as sensitive as us girls but they were teased at and ridiculed by other boys. Such is the effect of this hypocrytic society :) |
| Posted 7th April 2008 at 02:26 PM by CarpeDiem |
| | Hi CarpeDiem, Thankyou so much for writing in! Yeah tell me about the atrocities inflicted on guys who felt some compassion for girls in co ed. But then I guess though many are softies they seldom want to show it you know they fear ruining their macho image. Love, Devika |
| Posted 7th April 2008 at 02:33 PM by Devika Menon |
| |  Hi Devs, I think Men are very comfortable with me around. I have seen so many of them crying on my shoulders. I swear on God. The married, the unmarried everyone is included here. Once my friend walked in home way past 8.30 p.m. I had just finished my dinner and was relaxing reading a book. Tired of my 1.5 hours journey back home, I wanted to just chill. I sat with this friend and was talking to him. He was looking very disturbed. He is married and has two kids. My mom and sister did not understand the situation as he was not his chirpy self. They left us alone in a room and went. Suddenly he held my hands and started sobbing, i was preplexed!. I convinced him and promised to meet him every evening till he feels better. My sister for a second thought I was sobbing and came rushing to the room. She ran back to mom and told her that, "Mom that GUY is crying". Men do sob, but, they should feel comfortable with the person with whom they are with. They have a bit of ego and if they know they will not be pulled up later for the act or teased or nagged about it. They are more insecure than us. I can vouch on this as I have more male friends than females. |
| Posted 19th June 2008 at 05:17 AM by malspie |
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