Is expecting honesty from teenagers a tall order?
Posted 26th June 2009 at 07:45 AM by Deaf woman
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Last week I read a tongue in cheek article by a teen in The hindu NXG edition.
She laments how difficult it is for teens to be open with their parents about
outings ,friends .I found some teens are dead against their parents using the
children's mobiles or checking them.My mom was a disciplinarian ,yet i was
close to her and talked about everything in my teens ,of course I got some
admonishements from her too.But that never deterred me to be close to her
or rather discuss issues relating to my life.
Nowadays youth are so secretive about their life ,that left me question the role
parents play in their upbringing .Should we as parents let the children do what
they want and remain mute spectators or should we face the wrath of children
by asking to be a part of their life?We read so many stories about abusing parents
and how children should be protected from .But how do we draw the line when to
interfere and when not to.I wonder if our parents too felt like this when we are growing up.
Last week I read a tongue in cheek article by a teen in The hindu NXG edition.
She laments how difficult it is for teens to be open with their parents about
outings ,friends .I found some teens are dead against their parents using the
children's mobiles or checking them.My mom was a disciplinarian ,yet i was
close to her and talked about everything in my teens ,of course I got some
admonishements from her too.But that never deterred me to be close to her
or rather discuss issues relating to my life.
Nowadays youth are so secretive about their life ,that left me question the role
parents play in their upbringing .Should we as parents let the children do what
they want and remain mute spectators or should we face the wrath of children
by asking to be a part of their life?We read so many stories about abusing parents
and how children should be protected from .But how do we draw the line when to
interfere and when not to.I wonder if our parents too felt like this when we are growing up.
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Dear Friend,
I do not know what to say. I am quoting Khalil Gibran. Hope you get a meaningful perspective after reading his poem:
"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let our bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable."
Thanks,
HAPPYPosted 26th June 2009 at 11:17 AM by depressed
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kudoos to khalil gibran....he said it as it is...Posted 26th June 2009 at 02:02 PM by Thanajmaan -
Dear HAPPY,
I have read that poem already. Sounds meaningful. But I cant live practically like that. I love my kid soo much and would definitely guide him from the lessons which I have learned. I cant and I wont leave him just like that. I cant see him going in a wrong path.Posted 26th June 2009 at 06:14 PM by unna -
Dear happy,
What a wonderful poem. Thanks for sharing it.It broadened my mind.
vijjiPosted 27th June 2009 at 12:39 AM by Deaf woman - Dear unna,
You echo my sentiments.But i think we should be supportive and not interfering parents when they enter teens .Thanks for the visit.
vijjiPosted 27th June 2009 at 12:40 AM by Deaf woman
