Is expecting honesty from teenagers a tall order?
Posted 26th June 2009 at 07:45 AM by Deaf woman
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Last week I read a tongue in cheek article by a teen in The hindu NXG edition.
She laments how difficult it is for teens to be open with their parents about
outings ,friends .I found some teens are dead against their parents using the
children's mobiles or checking them.My mom was a disciplinarian ,yet i was
close to her and talked about everything in my teens ,of course I got some
admonishements from her too.But that never deterred me to be close to her
or rather discuss issues relating to my life.
Nowadays youth are so secretive about their life ,that left me question the role
parents play in their upbringing .Should we as parents let the children do what
they want and remain mute spectators or should we face the wrath of children
by asking to be a part of their life?We read so many stories about abusing parents
and how children should be protected from .But how do we draw the line when to
interfere and when not to.I wonder if our parents too felt like this when we are growing up.
Last week I read a tongue in cheek article by a teen in The hindu NXG edition.
She laments how difficult it is for teens to be open with their parents about
outings ,friends .I found some teens are dead against their parents using the
children's mobiles or checking them.My mom was a disciplinarian ,yet i was
close to her and talked about everything in my teens ,of course I got some
admonishements from her too.But that never deterred me to be close to her
or rather discuss issues relating to my life.
Nowadays youth are so secretive about their life ,that left me question the role
parents play in their upbringing .Should we as parents let the children do what
they want and remain mute spectators or should we face the wrath of children
by asking to be a part of their life?We read so many stories about abusing parents
and how children should be protected from .But how do we draw the line when to
interfere and when not to.I wonder if our parents too felt like this when we are growing up.
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Ya you shuld be supportive and not be micro managing them always...Posted 2nd July 2009 at 02:38 PM by dhanyaag
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Thanks manchitra. i agree we should guide and support children.
vijjiPosted 3rd July 2009 at 07:13 AM by Deaf woman - Dear viveka,
Thanks for stepping in albeit under duress from me
.Patience definitely is the key when dealing with the teens.when chidren are away we can practice this easily but when they are with us 24x7,patience goes for a toss.what do u say? Posted 3rd July 2009 at 07:17 AM by Deaf woman - you are right dhanyag.Micro managing is tough and also gets on the nerves of the teens too.happy to see you here.
vijjiPosted 3rd July 2009 at 07:19 AM by Deaf woman -
Hi Happy!
In my opinion every relationship needs space. Any encrochment leads to disagreement. We can guide our children it is our duty. the upbringing should be such that they take your words, they listen to you,and they respect you.
ManjulaPosted 5th July 2009 at 09:07 AM by manjulapathy
