Worry, thy name is woman!
Posted 30th August 2009 at 11:41 PM by Chitvish
Why is worrying considered a female attribute?
Or
Is it really true??
The line that separates worry and anxiety is very thin!
We do worry about small things like,
children not doing well academically,
husband returning from office very late on any particular day without keeping us informed about it etc.
But, ultimately it is the mental make up of the individual woman which decides her attitude.
Generally, men do not let emotions override other things. They look out for a method to resolve the problem. Unless, of course it is beyond them.
If the children do not eat properly we start worrying about it. But our husbands coolly tell us “starve him or her for a day – she will feel hungry and come to you asking for food!” Why do we not ever think on those lines, but get anxious?
Men are more casual but analytical. Perhaps it is their conditioning that makes them feel that they have to be composed and take charge of the situation.
For career women, the tendency is to show greater commitment and they feel a constant need to prove themselves. They worry about potential uncertainties and sadly, these traits get extended to their domestic life too. These worries, most of them being superficial, annoy not only the family, but colleagues too!
Perhaps the gender infuses typical traits in man and woman. Still the individual personality does play a major part.
But, we women have to remember that our worries leave in trail, other problems such as health disorders.
Men, on the other hand, suppress their feelings and end up drinking and smoking to distress!
Since ultimately, worries erode us, we have to become emotionally intelligent. We must be aware and in control of our feelings. We play multiple roles in present day life and hence we have to equip ourselves with the requisite coping skills for our own survival!! We must focus more on resolving issues and on our health too! This will make our family proud of us!
I love this quote:
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow
It only snaps today of its joy!
Love,
Chithra.
Or
Is it really true??
The line that separates worry and anxiety is very thin!
We do worry about small things like,
children not doing well academically,
husband returning from office very late on any particular day without keeping us informed about it etc.
But, ultimately it is the mental make up of the individual woman which decides her attitude.
Generally, men do not let emotions override other things. They look out for a method to resolve the problem. Unless, of course it is beyond them.
If the children do not eat properly we start worrying about it. But our husbands coolly tell us “starve him or her for a day – she will feel hungry and come to you asking for food!” Why do we not ever think on those lines, but get anxious?
Men are more casual but analytical. Perhaps it is their conditioning that makes them feel that they have to be composed and take charge of the situation.
For career women, the tendency is to show greater commitment and they feel a constant need to prove themselves. They worry about potential uncertainties and sadly, these traits get extended to their domestic life too. These worries, most of them being superficial, annoy not only the family, but colleagues too!
Perhaps the gender infuses typical traits in man and woman. Still the individual personality does play a major part.
But, we women have to remember that our worries leave in trail, other problems such as health disorders.
Men, on the other hand, suppress their feelings and end up drinking and smoking to distress!
Since ultimately, worries erode us, we have to become emotionally intelligent. We must be aware and in control of our feelings. We play multiple roles in present day life and hence we have to equip ourselves with the requisite coping skills for our own survival!! We must focus more on resolving issues and on our health too! This will make our family proud of us!
I love this quote:
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow
It only snaps today of its joy!
Love,
Chithra.
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Wonderful quote chitvish mam. I am sorry to say i am a typical woman worrying endlessly ,realised my folly only recently.But habits do take time to change ,right?
regards,
vijjiPosted 31st August 2009 at 12:24 AM by Deaf woman
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Vijji,thanks for a quick, prompt Fb!
So, my generalisation is correc!:biggrin2;
Believe me, I was a 'worrying, tense' person in my younger days. But I did pay a price for it by losing my own self-esteem at times.
Things changed dramatically after I started my vedanta classes. Acceptance, I realised, is the key to peace of mind.
Possibly, advancing age also played a part!
Love,
Chithra.
Quote:Originally Posted by Deaf woman
Wonderful quote chitvish mam. I am sorry to say i am a typical woman worrying endlessly ,realised my folly only recently.But habits do take time to change ,right?
regards,
vijjiPosted 31st August 2009 at 12:43 AM by Chitvish -
Dear
Of late I have become a bit worrisome, esp when someone is going out on a journey, and have been trying to overcome the same. your blog , esp the qoute is wonderful, and timely for me atleast.Posted 31st August 2009 at 03:51 AM by muzna - Muzna, this is the typical worry, I have written about! We also worry about things which will never happen. We have to train our minds to drag our thoughts from 'worrying'! Nursing worry magnifies it!
Love,
Chithra.
Quote:Originally Posted by muzna .Posted 31st August 2009 at 05:03 AM by Chitvish -
Dear chithra mami,
Count me in the 'worrying" team.Every day i start with a clean state not to worry which only lasts for few hours.something or other comes up for me to worry..
Long way to go for a change..Posted 31st August 2009 at 08:40 AM by SupriyaDinesh
