The Mother in every woman.
Every woman is a delightful combination of an Innocent Girl,
a Femme Fatale &
an Understanding Mother.
What facet surfaces, depends on the situation life offers to one at various stages.
From childhood, in general, girl babies are pampered more than boys. The innocence of a child charms us no end.
Though we grow up in life, there is a vulnerability in every woman where the innocent girl in her plays a part. This gives the woman an extra gentleness, which has to be handled very carefully. She has to be careful that her innocence is not exploited unscrupulously by others. But this charming trait continues in a woman throughout her life and will come to the fore only if an occasion "demands" it!
Femme fatale does not necessarily depend on her physical looks or sexuality! It is a French expression, literally meaning " fatal woman". The dictionary gives the meaning as
A woman with an irresistible seductive charm, who leads those who love her into danger or despair!
Yet another explanation is "alluring, mysterious woman".
This we cannot deny because feminine charm is a typical quality of a woman to seduce her man to her advantage. Let us not jump to the conclusion that it is not a good quality. All said and done, a man loves his woman for this quality also, definitely! There is no denying it. We always think, to talk about feminine sexuality is harsh, difficult & shocking. But it need not be despised & needs to be understood in the proper perspective.
The last is the most important and worshipful facet of a woman. A woman can be a man's or another woman's best friend, understanding him or her during periods of emotional turbulence. She is capable of giving so much of love and affection and can be his best anchor in his low phases.
To her own children, she is the most understanding friend, whatever be the difference of opinions they go through with her. I always note this is an inherent quality in every woman whether she has become a biological mother or not, in real life.
That is why Hindu scriptures glorify woman as
Yaa devee sarva bhootheshu Matr roopeNa samsthithaa
Salutations, salutations and salutations to that goddess who lives in all beings as power of motherhood.
The Vedas loudly proclaim
Mata pita guru deivam
Giving the first place to the mother in a woman.
So, let us be proud of the fact that we are all blessed with womanhood!
Love,
Chithra.
a Femme Fatale &
an Understanding Mother.
What facet surfaces, depends on the situation life offers to one at various stages.
From childhood, in general, girl babies are pampered more than boys. The innocence of a child charms us no end.
Though we grow up in life, there is a vulnerability in every woman where the innocent girl in her plays a part. This gives the woman an extra gentleness, which has to be handled very carefully. She has to be careful that her innocence is not exploited unscrupulously by others. But this charming trait continues in a woman throughout her life and will come to the fore only if an occasion "demands" it!
Femme fatale does not necessarily depend on her physical looks or sexuality! It is a French expression, literally meaning " fatal woman". The dictionary gives the meaning as
A woman with an irresistible seductive charm, who leads those who love her into danger or despair!
Yet another explanation is "alluring, mysterious woman".
This we cannot deny because feminine charm is a typical quality of a woman to seduce her man to her advantage. Let us not jump to the conclusion that it is not a good quality. All said and done, a man loves his woman for this quality also, definitely! There is no denying it. We always think, to talk about feminine sexuality is harsh, difficult & shocking. But it need not be despised & needs to be understood in the proper perspective.
The last is the most important and worshipful facet of a woman. A woman can be a man's or another woman's best friend, understanding him or her during periods of emotional turbulence. She is capable of giving so much of love and affection and can be his best anchor in his low phases.
To her own children, she is the most understanding friend, whatever be the difference of opinions they go through with her. I always note this is an inherent quality in every woman whether she has become a biological mother or not, in real life.
That is why Hindu scriptures glorify woman as
Yaa devee sarva bhootheshu Matr roopeNa samsthithaa
Salutations, salutations and salutations to that goddess who lives in all beings as power of motherhood.
The Vedas loudly proclaim
Mata pita guru deivam
Giving the first place to the mother in a woman.
So, let us be proud of the fact that we are all blessed with womanhood!
Love,
Chithra.
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 |  Dear Chithra Yu come up with such great topics... so well written too! I also that it is the blood itself the nurturing, pampering etc.. I think a woman does need to strive to be her spouse's friend and the guiding light of her kids.. I am glad that our Vedas had realised the significant of mother so many centuries ago and accorded her the right place of dignity. |
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| |  Women power! We ought to be proud to be women! I truly enjoy being a woman and believe its a complete life that we take on...Whether we are that cute girl , young woman or mother, we are forever attractive in our own way!  Delighted to read this post and looking fwd to more.. |
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| |  Hi Chitra We women have to don so many different hats! God could not be everywhere , so he created mother or the motherhood in every woman. Nice post. |
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| |  Dearest Chithra Ma'am, A wonderful morning to you and what a topic indeed. I love the way in which you tackle very contemporary issues or issues considered taboo , so aesthetically that it is a very lovely comfort level that we experience. What you say is very very true a woman is the epitome of beauty and brains . Yes she can deal with the true essence of motherhood with the same ease with which she can deal with her enterprenial skills. Her role of a Mother, Wife ,Sister , Daughter ,Friend is dealt with impeccably. AS a mother she is the giver of love, the destroyer of grief, As a wife she is the lover, the friend and the mother to rely on As a daughter again she is the charm , the reason and the mother to the parents As a friend she is the spirit , the mother who understands So I feel in each of the role she plays , somewhere she is the mother , the giver , the destroyer and thats why she is the given the primal place in the vedas too. Ma' am I am very proud to be blessed with motherhood! Love, Your Mol |
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| |  Thanks, AC, for the immediate FB, as usual - have you ever spared a thought as to how much you perk me up??? A woman need not strive - it is in her. I do not believe in a woman being a torch-bearer of feminism, but believe, every woman is an incarnation of Devi. That is why, every woman is commonly addressed as Amma in the South and Ma-ji in the North! Love, Chithra. |
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| | Thankyou Ranganayaki for your quick reply. This is my personal view - woman is the life of man. There is freshness and there is sweetness, when a woman steps in the life of a man.If life becomes "weary" for a man, a woman "cheers" him up, in every way, so typical of her. Now, let us not talk of the exceptions here !!  Love, Chithra. |
| Updated 28th April 2008 at 03:37 AM by Chitvish |
| | Yes, Usha, I agree with you.The mother in every woman is spontaneous.When we walk on the road, we may see a child standing alone & crying.The urge is very strong in us to rush to the child & comfort him or her! Nobody can ever measure how much love, the heart of a mother in every woman, can hold! Love, Chithra. |
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| | Ende Mole, your FB is really "adi-poli" !You have supplemented beautifully to my post. I read somewhere The real religion of the world comes from women much more than from men - from mothers most of all, who carry the key of our souls in their bosoms. I fully agree with whoever has said it! Biological motherhood is only a facet of the basic motherhood in every woman. Love, Chithra. |
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| |  Dear Chithra, Motherhood is a special gift exclusively bestowed up on woman by God. Mother's love is spontaneous and unconditional. Whether the child reciprocates or not, mother's love flows in an unbroken stream. You have portrayed it very nicely in the article. Love, PS |
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| | Thanks PS, for visiting my blog & leaving a comment.Like the West, we do not celebrate Mother's day in our country. We believe in identifying with her wants and needs and act suitably to the extent possible within our limits.. Infact, mother is part of us though it is the reverse!! Love, Chithra. |
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| | Dear Chithra... Beautiful post written by a beautiful woman :) Thanks...I too believe that we women have such a diverse collection of emotions and roles that its fascinating to watch how we evolve, survive, care, provide for, pamper, be pampered and live amidst all of these. I am not a mother yet, but I can relate to motherly feelings. Having been married and into a whole new sphere of life with additional roles and responsibilities, I never cease to wonder how my mother...or for that matter..mothers - did so much for us yet were not demanding !!!! We women are special indeed. Having said all these, I would just like to add that men and women are complementary to each other and both are part of the same Whole. Our lives will be incomplete without our male counterparts - be it a father, brother, husband, grandfather etc :) With thanks and love Pavithra |
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| |  Dear Chithra, A lovely and emotional topic handled with your own uniqueness. The word, 'mother' itself speaks its value. A woman is born with an inbuilt motherhood in her. When playing with toys a small girl does whatever she has experienced from her mother. In one of his movies Baghyaraj would expalin when a woman is getting full-fledged as one, in his own style of dialogue delivery. Can we forget the song, 'amma endrazhaikkadha...?'. Feels something divine whenever I hear it. I have shared this several times in IL itself. But, feeling this is right place, saying once more; I realised the value of motherhood to the fullest extent after becoming a mother. Love, Oviya. |
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| | Chittu Manni Welcome back and happy to see your blog with a bang.. Really missed you in the entire forum.. I have an instinct to add add something more.. I think the motherhood facet of women is always there right from childhood. Any girl baby would have definitely tried to give bath to, dress up and feed her fond dolly even while playing. Have never seen a baby boy doing any of this, leave alone thinking that it is too "girly".. I think maternal instincts drive women to be more gentle through out her life. I agree wtih the Femme fatale aspect too, every women wants to look her best in her own definition, irrespective of her age. Coming to think of it, I think it is the innocent girl that indeed seems to be a real phase in a women's life. What say ? |
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| | Dear Pavithra, please do not.... embarass me! Please understand that whether a biological mother or not, there is motherhood, inherent, in every woman.We not only do full justice to all the roles in life, but identify ourselves completely with each and every role we play. I fully agree with you that man and woman complement eachother beautifully which I have discussed about in my post Our equation with men changes with age ! I may sound controversial, but still I feel a man can be the best friend of a woman also, in life! A very enjoyable FB, thanks, Pavithra. Love, Chithra. |
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| | Oviya, my dear Sirpame! Your feed back is very nice and true. Motherhood is, as you say, a born quality in every woman.In movies, motherhood is always, highlighted or glorified. You remember in deewar, how the hero says Mere pass ma hain! "Amma endrazaikkatha" is one of the "crown" songs of tamil cinema & not only the words, the tune is very lilting and it is also sung beautifully. Love, Chithra. |
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| | Welcome to my blog, Gayu ! A girl baby acting like a mother is partly due to conditioning as well, I think! Our society clearly defines the roles of man and woman from childhood - rightly or wrongly. I can't help saying that in present day world, the innocent child in a woman is getting lost too soon because of survival problems.I can see the difference when I compare myself with two more generations in my house - daughter and granddaughter. I wonder if I was a "girl" for a longer time!! Love, Chithra. |
| Updated 29th April 2008 at 12:13 AM by Chitvish |
| | Chithra, My dear! Naan engiyo andharathula midhakkiren... Another great quote about motherhood in movies...Very powerful dialogue... |
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| |  Dear Chithra mami, A very nice and beautiful post. Hope your madurai visit has not inspired this after seeing your biological mother and the great LADY of Madurai. What you say is 100 % true because i recently witnessed the same. We had to attend a seemantham function and all our family went. My elder one is quite reserved and does not display any sort of affection openly but we can understand the subtle emotions. All the small kids just love her and she also enjoys the love and warmth but I have never seen her carry an infant and play with the child. But on this particular day, I could see her carrying a baby and roaming the whole place and behind a train of smaller kids. The way she carried the child with so much of ease, which made me think that girls have these things by birth. To nurture, to take care only we as women can do that so effortlessly. I agree with you in having a man as a best friend - maybe it is the attraction of the opposite sexes, that plays a vital part in having man as the best friend because nature has made it that way that a man complements a woman it may be in any form, dh or just a friend. |
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| |  Dear Chith Beautiful blog. If somebody can bring relief to you just by her presence then it is our Mother. The motherly nature in every woman is what makes her the best. Love Vidhi |
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| |  how did i miss it!!!dea chithu i didnt know how i missed out on such a beautiful topic..anyways better late than never...a super subject and article well written with the Gita cuming with u in full support......yes the motherhood in every woman is sumthing which is special and its such a wonderful feeling.......this is sumthing what the men still find tuff to comprehend...the loving nature of every mom where she tries to protect her children from all odds is a enormous gift which all of us have been blessed with .....i just love my MOM very very much and am here today all coz of her......so here i take my chance to dedicate my life to her thru ur post...thanks a lot for everything AMMA..... and here i have a small question...so this blog cums up right after ur visit to madurai after meeting ur amma...so was this blog inspired by her???? lov sowmi |
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