Being human is more important than acting superhuman!

Wowow Chitra Ma'am, Ive been waiting like a cinegoer waiting for th first day first show ticket right outslde the window and the moment it opened glad to take my ticket to the matinee of your movie!

Lovely blog,

Yes its very difficult for one to accept ones mistake .That three letter word 'EGO' has been instrumental in this. Marring relationships, creating more disharmony, and above all reaching a point of no return. And the five letter word 'SORRY; has been helpful in creating harmony, making peace with ourselves and resurrecting relations on the brink of a fall.

If only we shed the ego and agreed to come to terms with our mistakes acknowledge them , then i guess we would definitely have a great tuning not only with the external world but within ourselves. That glow on the face doesnt come with external cosmetics (which is shortlived beauty) but from peace within oneself ,that lasts forever.

Loved your blog as always!!

Love,
Your Mol

dear Chithra ma'am,

That's so true, we have difficulty accepting that we commit mistakes ! Also over time, we tend to believe our decisions/choices are better than others...."Ego", as Devika ma'am has pointed out, creeps in.

we do need to keep in mind we are after all human!

Enjoyed your post,

Regards,
Ranganayaki

Dear Chith

Nice blog. when we lose our humane characters we lose ourselves. And about accepting our mistakes it needs courage. Very rarely we accept our mistakes. One can always say that what they have done is right to others and prove it but deep inside they know what is right and what is wrong. But we always try to ignore the person inside us. Most of the time we are not aware of the inner guide within us.

There is always happiness in being caring, giving, loving and compassionate. I think once we are able to realise the joy in caring, giving, loving and compassionate we will never go back from there. Let us all be human and humane.

Love
Vidhi

Dear Chithmam

A topic very dear to me. I always follow, you need to be a human foremost and teach my kids the same. How far I am setting a good example, is again in for a introspection into myself one day.

A little bit of self analysis, introspection sans EGO is what is the call for the day. Most of the times,to accept the mistakes and then correcting those mistakes takes lot of courage.

It is always the first step, that is difficult. the moment you have come to terms with your mistakes and faults and solutions, you are at peace with yourself, isnt it.

Ende mole, you are doing precisely
what I am scared of, myself ! By writing that you eagerly await to read my blog, do you realise that you fan my ego? But, well, since I am a student of the Gita, I know that you enjoyed the topic that I have blogged on and I will not get carried away! Thank God, I am very well aware of my limitations & I know that I have a long way to go!
I also know that I am very much human & it is your love for me which makes you enjoy, what I write here!!
Thankyou, ende priyappatta Devi mole!
Love,
Chithra.

Dear Ranganayaki, before I forget, let me
tell you, your avatar is very different & original !
Yes, knowingly, we try to "wriggle" out of our wrong doings, "minor" lies etc, as if we are above all that.
That is why I wrote this topic at all!
Love,
Chithra.

Vidhi, what you have written is very true.
We do not have the courage or conviction to accept that what we did was not correct, infact was far from correct. If only we realise that everybody is like us & is liable to commit a mistake, we will be accepting that we are on the wrong.All that we need is accepting that we are very human.
Love,
Chithra.

Thanks, Shanvy, for writing
that we must go into introspection regularly & clear all the dirt in our conscience. We will feel light and more than that, relieved. There is a strange sense of peace and that is because the guilt is gone from the mind.If anybody claims that she is pure at heart, I laugh to myself. One's actions & not words, should speak for oneself.
Love,
Chithra.

Dear Chithra,

I am kind of back to my routine, so got my free time to browse here. Have been missing quite a bit! remembered that u write here on mondays, so came here directly!
Good blog.....i want to share something which i experienced this weekend! We had our ladies club putting a stall and selling our food for Charity! Another lady with whom i was setting up the stand kind of yelled at me, when i repeatedly asked her to come and help,.....and for no rhyme or reason.I did not know her personally and i was wondering where did i go wrong. I tried to explain what i meant and did not mean to hurt her, inspite of that she used strong words, loud tone and after that she kept a really LOng face and sat ina corner. me being ME , could not take that, so went and held her cheeks and told her" why are u keeping such a long face, i really did not mean anything wrong!!" Of course, she also understood and after sometime became very friendly....and later i did get the info from her that all the shouting was not for me ,, but for the sake of some of her rivals or so( there was some politics brewing, into which i had stepped in unknowingly!)
Of course, here i was feeling good that i brought back laughter into someone's face, and after 3 hours, the others pounced on me and said i should not have pacified This lady and she deserves to be thrown out etc etc. i just quietly told them that this being my first interaction, i had no personal vendetta against her and i DID NOT WANT ANY NEGATIVE ENERGY around me or in the stall!
Of course they did not understand what was i talking about and kept quiet! .....that saved the sitaution. Here i was feeling great that i could say Sorry and have an opportunity to handle my EGO and ooof the others were upset with that!
Now Chithra, what do i do......ha ha....so much for my Experiments with Gita!
let me tell u my findings......Its really TOUGH TO DEAL WITH LADIES ONLY .....They will just not let u be yourself! ...much less a human being!
What do you think.....

Dear Chith,Great blog asusual..EGO - three letters but 300 times powerful of taking into consideration the amout of damage it can do.Its very true that no one wants to go back on their words or actions even if found that its incorrect, because goingback on what was told is considered a matter of self prestige and EGO settles its scores.With global warming and inflation rattling the world into tits and bits, no country(politicians**) wants to let off all ego and do something about this is a classy example of your blog.Self ego - I would want to constantly check and keep track of what im doing and how i act - no other way to keep it low and play safe - what say?
Enjoyed your blog

Dear Mami,

As usual you come out with very good topics........... I know idha kettu kettu bore adichachu ungalluku anna ena seiyaradhu vera vavazhiye illai.

EGO = edging GOD out , this is the definition given by Swami Sukhabodhananda which I try to follow. Though i am a humanbeing bound to make mistakes. In my new office when I joined here, another lady was already looking after some of the work which was assigned to me. She was not helpful if I used to ask her something. One day on a small issue we both lost our temper. After this she refused to speak to me but I cannot leave the issue like that... I personally went, spoke to her clarified the misunderstanding but still she is not comfortable with me........ This is ullagam. What to do now tell me..............

Dear Sudha,it is nice to read your Fb
on the very first day, I post my blog. I think what you did was right. Ofcourse nobody will do it because the ego will not allow them to go ahead.No doubt, the others did not like it. But I am sure you were happy to yourself that you were sympathetic to her - let us not bother whether she deserved it or not. You did what came spontaneously to you.I too beieve, rather am scared about negative energy building up - it can literally suffocate you & choke you sometimes. You prove to be a fit student of the Gita, I am very happy, Sudha.
Love,
Chithra.

You are right, Aishu Babes.
Our own ego plays havoc with our own personality, pushing us down the ladder of evolution. How many, do you think, genuinely, rather spontaneously say sorry, if they commit a mistake or say something wrong? Sorry or pardon me seem to be the costly or golden words & we do not allow them to escape from our mouth!
Love,
Chithra.

Lali, I am very much human and
will be only more & more happy, every time you say
As usual you come out with very good topics........... .
Yes, I am also a great admirer of Swami Sukhabodananda after attending his LIFE workshop.
I think you were right on clearing the misunderstanding from your part. Atleast you fee relieved. Do not bother about her reaction. EGO can play havoc with one's behaviour!!
Love,
Chithra.

Dear Chithra..
Sheddiing one's ego and controlling anger is perhaps the most difficult thing to do, in life. My mom always says that silence is the best weapon. Sometimes, when we retaliate in anger or with a false sense of superiority, we not only hurt others, but give opportunities for others to point fingers at us. If we silently retaliate, our displeasure makes the strongest impression on others, perhaps ! Also, it gives us more time to reflect on the negative situation and identify our flaws in it, if any.
Owning up a mistake, once realized, can cool down the situation rather than boiling over. We also then come across humble and simple rather than as an egoistic monster.
Thanks for a 'tips-ful' write-up on a Monday morning.
With love
Pavithra

I agree with you, partially, Pavi.
Silence is not always a powerful weapon - sometimes, noise has to be made, to impress some. Otherwise they think, they have an edge over you & you cannot defend yourself.
I fully agree with you, on your following words:
Owning up a mistake, once realized, can cool down the situation rather than boiling over. We also then come across humble and simple rather than as an egoistic monster.
Our conscience is clear & we are happy with ourselves.
Love,
Chithra.

Very well written dear Chithra.
I agree with you that first and foremost let us accept ourselves as humans - replete with shortcomings and the capacity to makes mistakes. True, it takes a lot of introspection and courage to do that.
It is my belief that realizing our mistakes and owning up to them is the first step to any kind of betterment or improvement in oneself. Without this first step no progress can be made. So it is something we do for our own betterment and not for anyone else's benefit.
There are situations when admitting one's folly is not as easy. Sometimes people are just waiting for a chance to point a finger at you and to tell you "I told you so"! In such situations remembering that we, as well as the other person is only human and nothing more, probably helps in us admitting to our mistake, learning from it and moving on.
Chithra, for me, your blogs sort of set the theme for the week and get me thinking and introspecting in that particular area of my personality. So in a way your blogs are proving to be a personality development/improvement class!
Very much look forward to them every Monday.
SS

Dearest SS, you have placed a big responsibility...
on me with your last lines! Let me share with you - I am just not able to break myself out of writing this way! A close friend teases me that I write like a moral science teacher! Well, SS, I do not know, if my age & life-experience have something to do with what I write! I love to read light, breezy topics - but I cannot write that way. So, I realise that I am what I am and can never be, what I want to be!! Am I confusing you, SS?
Once we accept our shortcomings and limitations, there is such lightness in our minds.Hardly anyone follows
Sathyam vada, Dharmam chara
as given in Thaithriopanishad; but everybody loves to be projected as Sathyasandan or dharmathma! What irony??
A big load is off our minds when we accept we are just one of Amar, Akbar, Antony & not a Mathma!
Love,
Chithra.

Dear Chithu,
That was another thought provoking topic from you. Other than ego I would like to think so many are of the thought that they are too big to make an effort. After all that is very important.There have been many a time when I have made that kind of effort tp break the silence and tell them to look back at what we have been thru, if beyond thet they refuse to let bygones be bygones then Iam on a clear slate.

I agree, Janani, there are some who continue or, shall I say, love to brood over bygones. It looks as though they cling on to the past.
I think it is best to ignore them, leave them with their ideas & move on.
Love,
Chithra.