Do you celebrate your friend’s success?
Do you celebrate your friend’s success?
We wish our friends well.
BUT wait a minute! Do we, really?
Well…………..Not THAT well!
I know, you are going to be incensed hearing me say this. But let us accept, we are human, after all. We want our friends to succeed, but when they do and outshine us, the fear does show up!
Let us be honest to ourselves – when we feel down, we tolerate easily hearing about a friend’s misfortune than his success! The identification factor gives us comfort in mind. If our friend is very much like us, we feel comfortable. Rest assured that it is natural for everybody to feel this way. Nothing alienates people like success. This is an unwritten law of life.
It is not without the reason that people who reach the top say ‘It is lonely at the top’. Eagles fly alone at the heights they are used to.
Allow your friends to celebrate their success without yourself feeling intimidated and join them happily. Also learn to sympathize with their failures without feeling a secret satisfaction about them. Your friends must have the confidence in you that if they share their success stories with you, you will feel no pang of jealousy, envy or hatred in you. Learn to say “you do deserve this success and none, more”! You are likely to be right. You will certainly be a friend.
Let us learn to accept these words:
I am happy for my friend’s happiness. Sharing their happiness is my happiness.
Love,
Chithra.
We wish our friends well.
BUT wait a minute! Do we, really?
Well…………..Not THAT well!
I know, you are going to be incensed hearing me say this. But let us accept, we are human, after all. We want our friends to succeed, but when they do and outshine us, the fear does show up!
Let us be honest to ourselves – when we feel down, we tolerate easily hearing about a friend’s misfortune than his success! The identification factor gives us comfort in mind. If our friend is very much like us, we feel comfortable. Rest assured that it is natural for everybody to feel this way. Nothing alienates people like success. This is an unwritten law of life.
It is not without the reason that people who reach the top say ‘It is lonely at the top’. Eagles fly alone at the heights they are used to.
Allow your friends to celebrate their success without yourself feeling intimidated and join them happily. Also learn to sympathize with their failures without feeling a secret satisfaction about them. Your friends must have the confidence in you that if they share their success stories with you, you will feel no pang of jealousy, envy or hatred in you. Learn to say “you do deserve this success and none, more”! You are likely to be right. You will certainly be a friend.
Let us learn to accept these words:
I am happy for my friend’s happiness. Sharing their happiness is my happiness.
Love,
Chithra.
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Sowmya, you are blessed...
with a good heart, is all that I can say!!
God bless you.
Love,
Chithra.
Quote:Originally Posted by sowmyaganesh
SowmyaPosted 3rd November 2009 at 09:45 AM by Chitvish
