Worry, thy name is woman!
Posted 30th August 2009 at 11:41 PM by Chitvish
Why is worrying considered a female attribute?
Or
Is it really true??
The line that separates worry and anxiety is very thin!
We do worry about small things like,
children not doing well academically,
husband returning from office very late on any particular day without keeping us informed about it etc.
But, ultimately it is the mental make up of the individual woman which decides her attitude.
Generally, men do not let emotions override other things. They look out for a method to resolve the problem. Unless, of course it is beyond them.
If the children do not eat properly we start worrying about it. But our husbands coolly tell us “starve him or her for a day – she will feel hungry and come to you asking for food!” Why do we not ever think on those lines, but get anxious?
Men are more casual but analytical. Perhaps it is their conditioning that makes them feel that they have to be composed and take charge of the situation.
For career women, the tendency is to show greater commitment and they feel a constant need to prove themselves. They worry about potential uncertainties and sadly, these traits get extended to their domestic life too. These worries, most of them being superficial, annoy not only the family, but colleagues too!
Perhaps the gender infuses typical traits in man and woman. Still the individual personality does play a major part.
But, we women have to remember that our worries leave in trail, other problems such as health disorders.
Men, on the other hand, suppress their feelings and end up drinking and smoking to distress!
Since ultimately, worries erode us, we have to become emotionally intelligent. We must be aware and in control of our feelings. We play multiple roles in present day life and hence we have to equip ourselves with the requisite coping skills for our own survival!! We must focus more on resolving issues and on our health too! This will make our family proud of us!
I love this quote:
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow
It only snaps today of its joy!
Love,
Chithra.
Or
Is it really true??
The line that separates worry and anxiety is very thin!
We do worry about small things like,
children not doing well academically,
husband returning from office very late on any particular day without keeping us informed about it etc.
But, ultimately it is the mental make up of the individual woman which decides her attitude.
Generally, men do not let emotions override other things. They look out for a method to resolve the problem. Unless, of course it is beyond them.
If the children do not eat properly we start worrying about it. But our husbands coolly tell us “starve him or her for a day – she will feel hungry and come to you asking for food!” Why do we not ever think on those lines, but get anxious?
Men are more casual but analytical. Perhaps it is their conditioning that makes them feel that they have to be composed and take charge of the situation.
For career women, the tendency is to show greater commitment and they feel a constant need to prove themselves. They worry about potential uncertainties and sadly, these traits get extended to their domestic life too. These worries, most of them being superficial, annoy not only the family, but colleagues too!
Perhaps the gender infuses typical traits in man and woman. Still the individual personality does play a major part.
But, we women have to remember that our worries leave in trail, other problems such as health disorders.
Men, on the other hand, suppress their feelings and end up drinking and smoking to distress!
Since ultimately, worries erode us, we have to become emotionally intelligent. We must be aware and in control of our feelings. We play multiple roles in present day life and hence we have to equip ourselves with the requisite coping skills for our own survival!! We must focus more on resolving issues and on our health too! This will make our family proud of us!
I love this quote:
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow
It only snaps today of its joy!
Love,
Chithra.
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Dear Chithra Auntie, I love your way of writting. I am one of your fans. Many people can advice. But we can accept and follow advices from somebody we feel so special (like you). The article on 'worry' is very good. I will try to follow the concept of 'acceptance'. Please keep writing. (This is my first post :))Posted 8th October 2009 at 06:27 AM by Hemakrishna
