Worry, thy name is woman!
Posted 30th August 2009 at 10:41 PM by Chitvish
Why is worrying considered a female attribute?
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Is it really true??
The line that separates worry and anxiety is very thin!
We do worry about small things like,
children not doing well academically,
husband returning from office very late on any particular day without keeping us informed about it etc.
But, ultimately it is the mental make up of the individual woman which decides her attitude.
Generally, men do not let emotions override other things. They look out for a method to resolve the problem. Unless, of course it is beyond them.
If the children do not eat properly we start worrying about it. But our husbands coolly tell us “starve him or her for a day – she will feel hungry and come to you asking for food!” Why do we not ever think on those lines, but get anxious?
Men are more casual but analytical. Perhaps it is their conditioning that makes them feel that they have to be composed and take charge of the situation.
For career women, the tendency is to show greater commitment and they feel a constant need to prove themselves. They worry about potential uncertainties and sadly, these traits get extended to their domestic life too. These worries, most of them being superficial, annoy not only the family, but colleagues too!
Perhaps the gender infuses typical traits in man and woman. Still the individual personality does play a major part.
But, we women have to remember that our worries leave in trail, other problems such as health disorders.
Men, on the other hand, suppress their feelings and end up drinking and smoking to distress!
Since ultimately, worries erode us, we have to become emotionally intelligent. We must be aware and in control of our feelings. We play multiple roles in present day life and hence we have to equip ourselves with the requisite coping skills for our own survival!! We must focus more on resolving issues and on our health too! This will make our family proud of us!
I love this quote:
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow
It only snaps today of its joy!
Love,
Chithra.
Or
Is it really true??
The line that separates worry and anxiety is very thin!
We do worry about small things like,
children not doing well academically,
husband returning from office very late on any particular day without keeping us informed about it etc.
But, ultimately it is the mental make up of the individual woman which decides her attitude.
Generally, men do not let emotions override other things. They look out for a method to resolve the problem. Unless, of course it is beyond them.
If the children do not eat properly we start worrying about it. But our husbands coolly tell us “starve him or her for a day – she will feel hungry and come to you asking for food!” Why do we not ever think on those lines, but get anxious?
Men are more casual but analytical. Perhaps it is their conditioning that makes them feel that they have to be composed and take charge of the situation.
For career women, the tendency is to show greater commitment and they feel a constant need to prove themselves. They worry about potential uncertainties and sadly, these traits get extended to their domestic life too. These worries, most of them being superficial, annoy not only the family, but colleagues too!
Perhaps the gender infuses typical traits in man and woman. Still the individual personality does play a major part.
But, we women have to remember that our worries leave in trail, other problems such as health disorders.
Men, on the other hand, suppress their feelings and end up drinking and smoking to distress!
Since ultimately, worries erode us, we have to become emotionally intelligent. We must be aware and in control of our feelings. We play multiple roles in present day life and hence we have to equip ourselves with the requisite coping skills for our own survival!! We must focus more on resolving issues and on our health too! This will make our family proud of us!
I love this quote:
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow
It only snaps today of its joy!
Love,
Chithra.
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For "worriers" (!)..., Bhargavi
this should be the icing on the cake!
A problem maynot be solved, but atleast need not be exaggerated in our imagination!
Love,
Chithra.
Quote:Originally Posted by Sriniketan
SriniketanPosted 5th September 2009 at 12:25 AM by Chitvish
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Chithra madam
Superb..very well said about how men and women handle worries...and specially I agree what you said about working women,...as I myself experienced and still experiencing such worries on how to manage and maintain the equilibrium....
By the way...is that srichakram ..the one in your profile pic...it looks simplyyy awesome ...great...Posted 5th September 2009 at 08:01 PM by SriVidya75 
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Very good post, Chithra ma'am! Ever since I did a random test on my Emotional intelligence, I've been trying to work hard on this matter. This worrying habit ought to trim down!Posted 6th September 2009 at 12:21 AM by Ranganayaki -
SriVidya, my new avatar is....
the famous golden lotus (called potramarai) in Madurai Meenakshi Temple pond & my attempt to project my nativity!
It is best o accept that men & women are made differently - that says it all!
Love,
Chithra.
Quote:Originally Posted by SriVidya75 ..Posted 6th September 2009 at 12:57 AM by Chitvish -
Ranganayaki, your attempt to...
test your emoional intelligence, at random, amused me no end & it is a good idea to review oneself!!
Love,
Chithra.
Quote:Originally Posted by Ranganayaki !Posted 6th September 2009 at 12:59 AM by Chitvish
Updated 6th September 2009 at 08:33 AM by Chitvish
