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Blame it On Menopause!
Posted 2nd July 2008 at 02:31 PM by Anandchitra
I think I should blame it all on my approaching menopause. If I feel out of sorts, short tempered, bored, irritable and what else could be there.
. So blame it ALL on menopause methinks!. In some ways it’s easy to hide behind some nametag and not accept responsibility for any actions. Well why else would I feel mood swings and be bitter about some imaginary pain?
Ever since I was a young girl I have wondered why was I born a girl?
Truly it could only be randomly decided and why should it have been my lot in life.. All the more on certain days more than others. Also the month moves so quickly that the next cycle is there before I even know it.. Come on Universe give me a break!!!!!!!
And there is the inevitable child birth.. Again the question popped into my head why was I born a girl! The more I thought I saw the more reason to have been a boy.. They really have it easy.. Starting from the fact that they just need a few tops and few shorts and they are even packed for a Vacation!:rolleyes:
After child birth and all the pains comes the child rearing task.. And here I thought we were in it together. But somehow men seem to take the easy way out! So when I toil with kid trying to wake him up on time and make him do homework, any excuse is valid for the better half!
So why did I have to be born as a girl and then grow up to become woman? Maybe because I had to feel the pleasure and pain in carrying a child in my womb? Maybe I want to feel the love of a mother hen towards its clucking chickens or that of a cat towards its newborn litter all jostling for space at that moment of suckling.. And tired that the cat or dog maybe, they never push away any of that litter. There is always space and more. And in those tired moments too the inevitable bonds of life are established.
I have heard the sound of a Cow giving birth to its calf.. The pain can be heard in every syllable of that sound. Yet right after, it suckles its young and appears to be in bliss with its own.
Surely I would have missed comparable moments as these had I not been born a girl turning woman? Where else could I have lived to nag the daylights of the family members..? Where else would I think of their hunger first before feeding mine? How else could I have felt the pain and torment of Mother Earth as it yearned for peace and goodwill amongst its brethren?
In those small moments of devotion, I can empathize with the pangs of separation that Radha felt for Lord Krishna.. Or maybe the whole of Brindavan felt for the Lord!
Along with Radha I too wait for my husband to come home and I can feel the magic when he sings to me as Brindhavan must have felt when Krishna played the flute. For this one fleeting moment a woman I would rather be!
And I can feel my heart melt when my young one gives me a hug of tenderness so much so I even forget my pains of body, mind and soul.
So now I know the reason behind the random reasoning of my God, glad is my heart and oh for all the rest of my mood swings and all the packing problems, I will still blame it on Menopause but for now I have managed to find the reason to celebrate being born a girl!
. So blame it ALL on menopause methinks!. In some ways it’s easy to hide behind some nametag and not accept responsibility for any actions. Well why else would I feel mood swings and be bitter about some imaginary pain?Ever since I was a young girl I have wondered why was I born a girl?
Truly it could only be randomly decided and why should it have been my lot in life.. All the more on certain days more than others. Also the month moves so quickly that the next cycle is there before I even know it.. Come on Universe give me a break!!!!!!!And there is the inevitable child birth.. Again the question popped into my head why was I born a girl! The more I thought I saw the more reason to have been a boy.. They really have it easy.. Starting from the fact that they just need a few tops and few shorts and they are even packed for a Vacation!:rolleyes:
After child birth and all the pains comes the child rearing task.. And here I thought we were in it together. But somehow men seem to take the easy way out! So when I toil with kid trying to wake him up on time and make him do homework, any excuse is valid for the better half!
So why did I have to be born as a girl and then grow up to become woman? Maybe because I had to feel the pleasure and pain in carrying a child in my womb? Maybe I want to feel the love of a mother hen towards its clucking chickens or that of a cat towards its newborn litter all jostling for space at that moment of suckling.. And tired that the cat or dog maybe, they never push away any of that litter. There is always space and more. And in those tired moments too the inevitable bonds of life are established.
I have heard the sound of a Cow giving birth to its calf.. The pain can be heard in every syllable of that sound. Yet right after, it suckles its young and appears to be in bliss with its own.
Surely I would have missed comparable moments as these had I not been born a girl turning woman? Where else could I have lived to nag the daylights of the family members..? Where else would I think of their hunger first before feeding mine? How else could I have felt the pain and torment of Mother Earth as it yearned for peace and goodwill amongst its brethren?
In those small moments of devotion, I can empathize with the pangs of separation that Radha felt for Lord Krishna.. Or maybe the whole of Brindavan felt for the Lord!
Along with Radha I too wait for my husband to come home and I can feel the magic when he sings to me as Brindhavan must have felt when Krishna played the flute. For this one fleeting moment a woman I would rather be!
And I can feel my heart melt when my young one gives me a hug of tenderness so much so I even forget my pains of body, mind and soul.
So now I know the reason behind the random reasoning of my God, glad is my heart and oh for all the rest of my mood swings and all the packing problems, I will still blame it on Menopause but for now I have managed to find the reason to celebrate being born a girl!
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 |  I recall how my mom suffered menopause..Every stage of woman is filled with challenges..AC ma'am do not regret or ponder over being born as a girl.Just go with the flow.. |
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| |  AC, Very nice topic to be discussed..I too blame it on all the mood swings on Menopause... The way you had analysed why being born as a woman...I liked it very much... maybe that it is the truth behind our creation....Hats off to the Creator.. Woman= Love.we had to feel it and we are lucky to feel it and give it back... sriniketan |
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| |  Thanks Supriya... thats really sweet of you to say so.. will try and go with the flow! |
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| | Dear Bhargavi A gem of a reply.. you said it better than I could ever.. It is so true that we have to feel it and then give it back! |
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| |  Dear Chitra every stage of our life, the creator keeps placing one challenge after another and the bar gets higher and higher! But we women get through each and every hurdle in our own way! This stage too shall pass and you will do very well! Hang in there! |
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| |  Dear AC, Here I would like to differ with you, From my young days I have been proud to be a girl reasons were many at that time....... At an young age it was lot of dresses from my aunt (who was learning tailoring and I was the guinea pig)each holiday I used to be dressed in different avatars and photo promptly taken, Flowers as I had long hair. I loved a lot of them in my hair. etc At teenage the joys of dressing up, cooking, getting admiring glances from the opposite sex....   getting appreciation for the tasty food I used to prepare......... so the reasons are many that too when I was carrying that was the time I felt being born a girl is a blessing.I agree with you regarding Menopause and maybe it will also hit me but right now I put the blame on my hormone problems and PMT (pre menstrual tension) some excuses we need na...  |
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| | Thanks Usha.. your words come across as brightly as your sunflower.. glad it brightens my day! |
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| | Lallu dear I can see how wearing so many dresses would have helped.. thats a dream.. I only had 2 skirts to alternate and wear .. Dresses and girls go hand and hand.. Your excuses sound better than mine.. but you know when i blog I exaggerate just a little.. maybe more than a little. just to make it for interesting reading! I think... |
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| | Dear AC, That was one phase when I was in 3rd or 4th std but later that aunty also passed away after that it was mainly handed over things. Even during college days I remember I had 3 or 4 sets and used to cry to mom telling her that my friends always dress better. Hence had to start wearing sarees very early in life....... |
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| |  Dear AC, Lovely topic as usual. The glories of being a woman are many. I think the best thing that happened to me is to be born as a girl. I love every moment of it. I can also relate to your feelings at the onset of menopause. You know AC when my mom was going thru it , I just couldnt understand it and even my father was not around, She was widowed in her early thirties. Now i feel vey bad when I think that i couldnt support her since now I see women around me and the problems they go through during menopause. I odnt know if im digressing here but I think that there should be a system where the family members shouldbe made aware of the biological, mental and physical problems faced by a woman during menopause and how much support and compassion they require during this period. No celebration is complete without the involvement of family and so even celebration of woman hood with its pros and cons(very few though) would be more enjoyable if the family involves itself in understanding it. Love, Devika |
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| | Dear Devika Thanks for stepping here.. I realise I set out to write something and kind of went a little off track.. I am not as near or on the threshold of menopause.. However your comment shows clearly how talented a writer you are.. Well said about involving family.. though I might just stick to involving dh .. Again thanks :) |
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| | Hi Chitra, That made interesting reading.. What a blessing to be born an girl member..encoding female 'girl/woman/wife/mother' ...all the time one finds a female cursing herself, Yes, why us.. right from the time we enter womanhood... its all cribbing and crying, PMS's, menustral pains and then child birth pangs and lastly the menupause.. tried to ask myself a couple of times the same questions and feel bad..when u see a male.. going scott free of all these... Then as u say, there's so much more than the pains and sufferings.. when the kids do well, situations change... the credit of appreciation, compliments goes to the mother.. the sucess of the husband (theres a woman behind his success), We women blessed with so much of emotions, feelings, excitement.. which men can rarely display.. But Sweetheart, I would want to know.. what are the exact signs of menupause... when do we know that we are nearing it.. wats the age ? what are the symptoms ? how can we slow it down ? so many questions still ... Hats of to a Woman like you.. who will make menupause easier for others.. may be with this write up of yours.. Love, Michelle |
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| | hi AC, Nice topic as usual...i think as women we enjoy a lot of emotions which u have so nicely written about plus the advantages of dressing up as lalitha said...and for any display of short temper we do have an excuse...my dd says amma is PMS ...ing....both dd and dh will give each other understanding looks....u know During my labor pains i just started crying thinking of a cow and other animals giving birth with no one to care for them while i was surrounded by so many loved ones...and mom said god gives them the strength to bear it too....so we women are lucky creatures.... Mindi |
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| |  My v,dear AC, At first when I read it I thought to myself .." Where is the laughing ,bubbly AC gone ?".This is not the AC I knew yesterday ! And then Lo and behold ,just as the sun shines brightly after a heavy downpour ,there came your lovely lines painting such a lovely picture of the glories of being born a WOMAN ! Thank you dear , for holding up our colours so triumphantly and proclaiming that its just great to be what we are ..The symbols of LOVE and NUTURING.Where would our DH and dear kiddies be without us.We have been created to nuture and make sure all is well with the world! I liked the part about DH singing and the kids hugging.We are blessed to have these glorious moments and these are very valuable and precious and cannot be bought in any Mall anywhere inthe world ! warm regards PAULINA |
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| | dear ac, very well written!!!!! indeed i have also wondered why was i born a girl but GOD has given special powers to women she can give unconditional love and bear the worst of pains and yet keep smiling". Women are definitely God's best creation luv pavi |
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| |  Dear AC, Well written! Enjoyed reading again! I am so proud being a woman except on those days, when I have cramps. I envy at men-- how free they are. But, we have more powers than men. We know how to be patient, how to show love and affection to our people, and how to be the spine to the family. |
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| | Thanks Michelle for steppin in here! When I find out what is in Menopause I am planning to create a blog site to help women! So till then.. I dont know too.. |
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| | Mindi dear I get those looks too.. even on ordinary days.. And I am so glad you caught on to the central theme.. which is why we celebrate being a woman...in the midst of it all! |
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| | Pauline my love.. my eyes are in tears.. you got what i wanted to say.. it is a true blessing to be born a woman.. and to discover that unique blessing.. You have aboslutely touched me with your words.. I can see your reply is far better than my lead. Do keep writing you are so talented! |
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| | Pavi dear Its always a pleasure to see you here.. so young but you have caught on to it quite well. Being a woman is very unique and no one else can experience this range of emotions as we do.. the older we get the more difficult.. For ages women have endured.. I read a book A thousand splendid suns and was touched by what women in many parts of the world have to endure.. Many times when I see and read I do feel very sad.. The choice of being born is definetly not random. There has been a purpose .. Thank you for your kind words:) |
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