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To forget a birthday
Posted 31st July 2008 at 04:32 PM by Anandchitra
Oh Nooo.!! Dont ever dare to forget a birthday! In this day and age, birthdays are such hyped up events. The invitation some times matches a wedding and the gifts.. Oh Lord!
Being invited to a birthday party is no fun anymore.. it has truly lost its charm with all the stress involved.
If it is my kids friends's party, then I will have to consult kids before I buy gift because its aprestige issue what gift to give. If its my hubby's colleague's birthday, then some office politics is involved. If it is my friend or someone I know then the trauma begins. Most women I know gossip about the gift giving, so have to beware of the comments.
Gift cards I learnt is a no-no. You have to take the time to Shop.
And all these add up starting from the card to the gift to the gift wrapper.
Growing up we had no such problems. There were no parties given and none attended as well. The only special would be a payasam (sweet dessert) and a trip to the temple.
New clothes - No way. Once a year for diwali.
If I am not mistaken the first birthday cake I cut was when I turned 40.
Very rarely do my dh and I exchange gifts. After being through life's difficulties materials things dont hold any value any more.
To us it does not matter if we did not make dinner reservations or forgot to order a cake or get some fancy card! These , however thoughtful they might be do not hold a handle to what really matters.
What matters more would be a hug when we feel low, a helping hand when one feels tired, a smile to cheer one's day, a support of a best friend in my spouse, a excited cheering me with my blog and stories.. Truly dare I ask more of life. ? Does anyone disagree.. would love to hear different views on this!
Being invited to a birthday party is no fun anymore.. it has truly lost its charm with all the stress involved.
If it is my kids friends's party, then I will have to consult kids before I buy gift because its aprestige issue what gift to give. If its my hubby's colleague's birthday, then some office politics is involved. If it is my friend or someone I know then the trauma begins. Most women I know gossip about the gift giving, so have to beware of the comments.
Gift cards I learnt is a no-no. You have to take the time to Shop.
And all these add up starting from the card to the gift to the gift wrapper.
Growing up we had no such problems. There were no parties given and none attended as well. The only special would be a payasam (sweet dessert) and a trip to the temple.
New clothes - No way. Once a year for diwali.
If I am not mistaken the first birthday cake I cut was when I turned 40.
Very rarely do my dh and I exchange gifts. After being through life's difficulties materials things dont hold any value any more.
To us it does not matter if we did not make dinner reservations or forgot to order a cake or get some fancy card! These , however thoughtful they might be do not hold a handle to what really matters.
What matters more would be a hug when we feel low, a helping hand when one feels tired, a smile to cheer one's day, a support of a best friend in my spouse, a excited cheering me with my blog and stories.. Truly dare I ask more of life. ? Does anyone disagree.. would love to hear different views on this!
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 | Dear AC Completely agree with your views about the celebration. But do you not think that a year has passed thru for us successfully..Is that not a miracle?? The things that we did the past years are memories to be cherished right..yes ofcourse the customary of shopping does drive me nuts too but the concept of us having lived another year indeed demands an attention..I love my birthdays just for the fact that i have made thru another successful year... Good thought AC.. Love Vidya |
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| |  Birthday Gift..Hi AC..I would go for cake and gifts rather than a hug...  ..So when is your birthday..? |
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| |  Dear Anandchitra Madam, Nice thoughtful piece. I will go with your thoughts. I prefer a simple, loving wish (hugs/words) from your loved ones. No passion for cakes/gifts, if they are giving.... will take it whole-heartedly. Love, Gowri |
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| |  Dearmost Vidya You know I loved your writing on this subject.. actually I had planned to write this in snippets but then saw yours posted.. and even I know there is now way I can write as well as you.. still wanted to write so wrote hear. I agree with you completely dear.. It is indeed a miracle. I spend my birthday saying PRAYERS. You might wonder whats the big deal.. because as a routine I do not sit for long hours and say prayers.. On my birthday I am so happy to sit and pray.. mostly we all eat together.. sometimes my husband cooks for me.. no big cooking .. but we all say prayers together.. which my family knows is what I want as a gift. I take it as a honor you stepped in to comment.. thank you my friend:) |
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| | Supriya my young and beautiful friend Will ONLY tell when you plan to visit me:) o.k? Beleive it or not I am getting cakes and gifts every birthday now.. |
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| | Gowri dear i hear when you say if they are giving it will take it happily.. yes I agree. So when is your bday dear? |
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| |  Dear most AC akka, Hahahahaha... So, a simple Birthday party has so many complications... Sincerely speaking... I dont know, there are so many things to look after or rather to be taken care of... in attending / presenting in a Birthday party... I normally dont think too much on these things... Now, after reading this I have to think about... You are a great source of knowledge on day to day antics... Very resourceful... So, now that you know, when my B'day is... I can expect some nice presnts, cards, cakes & bakes from my Sis.... hahahahaha... (Just kidding...) Veda |
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| |  forgot to inviteforgot to invite.... is another problem.just miss out one person/do not call the whole clan when it is just achild's b'day.........such felony....how could i have done that, so i had to bear the brunt.... but the best thing was that i had infact invited but..the other party had the grouse that her husbands name was not told properly.... yeah she did not attend..and stopped talking to me later what can be sadder than that but then i am away from the meany thinking people can just thank God for that |
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| | Veda I still dont know when your birthday is............ Believe me there are too many things involved in these birthdays. You are lucky you have an expert for a wife.. so its o.k. if you dont know the nitty gritty details.. glad to see you here my friend:) |
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| | Muzna How did you sum up what goes on in my life too... oh if we dare forget! In a way it looks like its better to forget such people right? Thanks for stepping in:) |
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| |  AC, Count me in too...I am also in the same boat as you...don't expect anything on a b'day...except, I see to it that I don't yell on my b'day, my childrens' and my DH, respectively.. As you had mentioned, simplicity went along with peace...but now. in the name of being modern, complexities arise.. sriniketan |
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| | Bhargavi.. we both are more alike than you know.. same pinch.. Only when I decide not to YELL on anyone will definetly happen for sure.. especailly on wedding anniversary.. but between you and I, really i TRY very hard:) |
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| | Dearmost Anandchitra Madam, Thanks for accepting my comments. My birthdate : A day before I joined you all.... It is in my username itself....!!!!! Got it ?????? |
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| |  To forget a birthdayDear Chitra I fully agree with your views. But I am very fond of celebrating birthdays. My husband does not believe in that. He is from old times. In my younger days myself and my friend were very close to each other. We used to make birthday cards and give to each other. Then used to make a book full of thoughts , jokes etc and give to each other. Then after I started working used to buy new saree for birthdays. Mostly I started after I got married to buy new saree for my birthday. I used to buy myself. I cut cake first timein my life in office and in the bus on my 50th birthday. In office everyone used to greet and give cards for my birthday. I also used to give to others for their birthday to those who are close friends. viji |
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| | Viji So nice to hear from you.. I feel that sometimes life takes a toll and then certain things take a back seat.. its more important to be together .. nice that you did get to have your cake.. 50 is quite young my friend:) |
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| |  AC Dear..I too cherish a warm hug, a helping hand, a smile and those little gestures to make my day....but with all those things, I even want birthday cards, gifts and chocolote  ...You see..I have already told you in advance what I want...so waiting to receive them from you..Anyway good blog yaar...I have never involved myself in arranging a birthday party... |
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| | It is very special to recieve a birthday card by mail .. sometimes like here whom we might not have met in person.. because thats what it will be if I send you one.. do send me your address and birthday date.. Ya its nice to get all the goodies.. no doubt.. only sometimes the focus gets to the cake and not the thoughts.. In the long run you want the love and affection and thoughts to be with you.. not something that will perish overnight!.. just my opinion:) |
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| | hi! it totally depends how u take b'days. it should be a happy one as u were born on this day. u landed on this earth to see what life is ( which is ofcourse not full of roses). I am not a big fan of any celebrations, which look like waste of money & time & NO FUN. For me b'days are to make calls to whoever's B'day it is. even if i have not called them the whole yr. And if that person is my near & dear one i bake a cake & surprise them. I know they luv it.B"DAYS should be about wishing & remembering each other on that day & not pomp & show. Gifts or no gifts should not be given any importance. It should be the company of your loved ones on this day that u should look forward. And the efforts of the people who are taking all the trouble to come & wish u in person should be appreciated. |
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| | Madhurigupta WOW what a wonderful comment and feedback to this blog.. and what a wonderful take on birthdays in general.. I cannot agree with you more.. Every birthday i remember i have spent with people I love being parents and husband and then son.. now for the past many years my loving nephew and niece and sis in law have been added.. just being together in their company far exceeds any celebrations for me.. I mean any pomp and show and dining reservations.. all these people do come with gifts and cakes and as such proof for me to be grateful and thank GOD. |
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