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Here I am bloggin my thoughts, ideas, journals and ofcourse my inevitable ramblings. Greatly appreciate you'll stopping by and add comments if you will. See ya!
The Know-It-All
Posted 18th January 2008 at 09:52 PM by Anandchitra
This morning I had a call from a friend parent about a field trip my son's class is taking in April. Yes I knew the date of their trip but thats pretty much what I knew. Also that would suffice. or so I thought. Was I wrong !??!! She knew who were going to be the chaperones , who was NOT going , among other things. She lost me in "Who was not going"? Now how did she know ALL of this. Well to be truthfully honest I am always the last to know but even I thought I am keeping myself updated. So I listened to her tell me ALL the rest and for my benefit she threw me some scraps as to who has been getting into trouble with the Principal. She did ask me what I had been doing and I did answer truthfully that I had to buy a new microwave as my old one had conked. A short while later I get a call from another Mom friend who managed to enquire about the broken microwave and updated me about the upcoming fieldtrip. Atleast she added that I should call her as soon I heard anything else about the trip. hehe..i really found that funny. Me finding something new..What is this now a competition between moms who knew more about whats going on at school ?? By the time I went in the evening to pick up kid atleast 6 other mothers caught up with me with the broken microwave story and ofcourse the fieldtrip. I could see they really took pity on me as I seem not to know nothing.
What really amazed me was the speed in which NEWS travelled. Even I could see that the MW was not the real story. It was more on who's going on the trip, who's getting into trouble with the Principal, whose Mom is pregnant, who's dad had to move to seperate house as they couldnt get along and ofcouse the inevitable visit of inlaws.
So barely had i come back home, did my neighbor stop by and she said outright that she had seen a Appliance delivery van pull into my driveway. I literally sat down on the closest chair dumbfounded by the ease in which these women CAUGHT NEWS!! Really even with the wonders of technology this was way beyond my imagination. Now not only were they truly adept at NOSING down these info but also RETAINING it and then ofcourse PASSING it along. Even I know I dont have these esteemed qualifications. Because I forget all these NEWS as soon as I hear them . No wonder I dont belong to the "G" club (read gossip).
I still remember when I used to come back from school (walking ) I could see my mother standing near the compound wall talking to her neighbor. We always teased mother about this talk but thats how it went. When she moved to a flat it continued in a different way. The ladies would inevitably run into each other at the temple (hmmm??) or the vegetable vendor or just the street and "catchup" with whats going on.
I guess in this day and age most women are adept at "catching" news by email, cell phone, text msg and more. Clearly I am not going to get admission into this "nosy" group of moms and neighbors but Should I consider myself "LUCKY" that they call me to keep me updated??? What do you think Am I lucky or NOT ?!!!!!!
What really amazed me was the speed in which NEWS travelled. Even I could see that the MW was not the real story. It was more on who's going on the trip, who's getting into trouble with the Principal, whose Mom is pregnant, who's dad had to move to seperate house as they couldnt get along and ofcouse the inevitable visit of inlaws.
So barely had i come back home, did my neighbor stop by and she said outright that she had seen a Appliance delivery van pull into my driveway. I literally sat down on the closest chair dumbfounded by the ease in which these women CAUGHT NEWS!! Really even with the wonders of technology this was way beyond my imagination. Now not only were they truly adept at NOSING down these info but also RETAINING it and then ofcourse PASSING it along. Even I know I dont have these esteemed qualifications. Because I forget all these NEWS as soon as I hear them . No wonder I dont belong to the "G" club (read gossip).
I still remember when I used to come back from school (walking ) I could see my mother standing near the compound wall talking to her neighbor. We always teased mother about this talk but thats how it went. When she moved to a flat it continued in a different way. The ladies would inevitably run into each other at the temple (hmmm??) or the vegetable vendor or just the street and "catchup" with whats going on.
I guess in this day and age most women are adept at "catching" news by email, cell phone, text msg and more. Clearly I am not going to get admission into this "nosy" group of moms and neighbors but Should I consider myself "LUCKY" that they call me to keep me updated??? What do you think Am I lucky or NOT ?!!!!!!
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 | Great one AC! Hey, you made me feel good about myself 'cos I am like you. I do love to talk and catch up generally but I am just not one of those to be "plugged into" the daily news and gossip. I feel that I have so little time to find out in detail about the ones that are so dear to me (hubby) that if I had the time and energy, I'd rather spend it on going into details of my dear ones' daily activities rather than "catch up" with the rest of the folks. I would count my blessings that I will probably never be part of that "esteemed group"!  I think there may be some advantages to being plugged in but to me the efforts required to keep up with this circle far exceed the advantages that may be. You are one lucky person AC for not being in the G circle, believe me! SS |
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| |  Dear AC, Iam one more person who cannot join the G club at school or at work. Like you half the time I dO not know what the latest on the G mill is. So sometimes Iam also amazed at how many have the time and energy to listen and transfer info. My God!!! At the end of it all when gossip goes around and comes back it has so many more addtions to it, imaginative and spicy!!! Not my cup of tea. |
| Updated 19th January 2008 at 04:53 AM by Jananikrithsan |
| |  hi. all of you are not a part of G club. but fortunately or unfortunately i think i was and am a part of that club. To be honest my clubs are not girls only club. it included boys also. yes to your and my surprise, boys also love to gossip. They might no admit it but it is true. I did receive all latest news and did pass on them to others, but honestly i never added spice to it. iam just a transmitter, not an amplifier. Me and my friends talked about all sorts of gossip news for fun, or mangai as we call in our college. and when we went to college next day, we wont remember the mockings, we ll remember only the essence of the matter. Well, to me, knowing the latest news helps me to learn mistakes from others, and know my friends and neighbours better which doesnt mean iam going to judge them. As said in boys tamil film, information is wealth. this is my humble life |
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| |  Interesting to hear about the transmitter and amplifier Swtsvn.. Also it puts this gossip in a different note..however I did not really want to emphasise on gossip as much as being "NOSY".. I think some have it and some dont.. But i too have done my share of transmitting.. thanks for the views.. |
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| | To be involved in gossip as in other things does require time and effort dear Janani.. You would be surprised how much info some of my ex-moms have on my school.. I have to run to the website and catch up.. But do you think I am lucky that they choose me to transmit info to?!!? |
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| | Reading your reply makes ones spirit soar..dear Soaring spirit. keep blogin.. |
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| |  AC, Gossip, I run away from it...but you know you can't always even if u want to .. sometimes, it is a storehouse of info... even news about yourself...surprised believe me.it happens...you know we have a relative.. once veda had been playing a cricket match, he was exhausted and dehydrated, he was taken in for some drips into the nearby hospital...in the hospital the so called relatives son in law was a doctor...he told the relative that veda was not well..the news comes to me that veda has a problem in the heart and he was being treated for the same in that hospital... Then I don't shun gossippers...but there are few like for example..there was this lady who was wife of veda's colleague and used to reside in the floor above us..every morning she will come home at 8.00 am knowing very well i will be having my cup of coffee...to have breakfast and coffee at my cost..(I never minded the feeding part..)..and ofcourse gossip about who had their periods, who was pregnant,who had a nice roll...everything..it was 42 apartments.....most of the time she never cooked...she will feed the baby and herself in the house she v isited and also take some for the hubby.... I believe men also are gossippers...though we tend to append the trait more to the females....well let me stop here... |
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| | So when are we going to meet dearest Shanthi..We have so much in common and veda and my dh have in so much in common .. You are right in that its a storehouse of info.. Like most of the school moms I have to talk to know everything and anything about everybody..but they also know more relevant info about teachers changes in curriculum etc.. It makes sense to keep in touch.. |
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| | Dear AC, I am sailing in the same boat too. Probably the last to know as to what is happening in School. Cannot depend on DS to tell me anything. Then when one of his friends mom calls me up with all the latest info, i am totally in the dark... This has happened almost every class he has been in. Although this year I must say i am trying to be on top of things!! But then nothing is going on in school !! No gossip. Anyway, how's the Microwave doing the rounds.? |
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| | Nothing is going on in school.. I am really laughing out loud at this statement..dearest vandhana.. hmm..what to do? When we decide to keep up nothing ever happens.. I really am amzed at the information store house some moms are..I really tried that route but failed miserably..I am thankful that there these few moms who do talk to me and keep me posted..for me that would suffice.. |
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| | AC, Am very proud that I am the daughter of a dignified lady who avoids gossip, and I myself shun any extra news gathering, dissemenation, processing with much fury. Even when I was not busy with a job, I kept myself away from the G groups be it in the apartment complex, in social circles, even in the social networking groups where I visit regularly. I am usually the last to know about the illegal, illegitimate and ill-gotten dealing and affairs of others. And I am just as conscious that I dont allow news about myself to circulate. I have one strong rule. The minute I find an acquiantance gossiping, I just cut them off fully, remove that name from the mailing list. Be grateful, AC that you dont have the G cell. It is self-destroying. |
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| | It is a rule to live by..to cut off the mistletoe dear Vidya..What we dont need why have it around ..I hope to become a dignified lady like your mother ..It is so interesting to see the energy and effort these people put in being nosy .. You know I read somewhere friends are like flowers in a bouquet and I think its important for us to choose wisely.. and arrange them in our circle of life.. |
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| |  Hi AC, A yet another interesting blog from u.Am exactly like U.I am always out of this Gossips and when some news comes to me in school or college probably i will be the last to know about it.Some of my friends used to wonder at me.Because they were my close friends,they knew everything but i will not.In my college days i had a rule to myself,if my friends start speaking about some gossips,i will move out from there.Nice blog. |
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| | I admire that tactic soooo much..dear Shantha..moving away .. It has worked well for me too.. But why is it that we are in the minority.. Before I wrote this I was more than convinced I was alone.. Over the years I do have realised a few notes. Sometimes we need to be in the loop of information and our mind and intellect would have to work as a filter with respect to info coming in..And retain only that which is pertinent..Thanks for blogin.. |
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| |  Dear AC, I also belong to your type. I am not interested in G club. I do feel happy when I come to know about some good happenings, but if someone finds pleasure when they come to know that a marriage was stopped after engagement, I really feel bad. If you get any useful finformation from those nosy ones, you consider yourself lucky. If not just listen and forget about it. |
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| | It counts as a useful fb and also value added dear PS.. I will consider myself lucky if I get useful information only..Thanks..I have to say its mostly in our hands.. If we keep feeding the wrong one we will get more of that and who is to blame? I actually only get useful information thru these sources.. |
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| |  Dear AC, It is a nice blog.... I remembered some of the people whom I know, I couldnt control my laugh.... One of my friend.... He should know everything that is happening around.... irrespective of whether it relates to him or not.... He should know everything and you ask him about anybody he will give a full history.... I also know somebody who will talk as though they know everything and they saw things happening in front of them... The fact being they would not have been there at all.... They will talk so convincingly that you have to accept it.... So... there are so many such great people in this world.... When we were kids, my mother will not allow us to come anywhere near her when she is talking with the neighbours... Even by chance we go near her... we had it for the day... So, I think it goes back to the way we have been brought up.... |
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| | You have been missing in action for so looooooooooooong dear Veda I was getting ready to send a search party .. but knowing that you are more like my dh i think you have been busy with work.. take a break my friend.. You said it better than i could about these know it alls.. Have a nice day. |
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