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Temperament
Posted 23rd February 2008 at 10:06 PM by Anandchitra
Updated 24th February 2008 at 02:18 PM by Anandchitra
Updated 24th February 2008 at 02:18 PM by Anandchitra
Of late I have been really trying to coach some kids for a Science tournament. I say trying because if one shows for the class the other does not and if 2 shows up it rains, or class room not availabe or even one day the projector fell down while I was TRYING to teach and scared the kids. Also I was continually disappointed that they all did not apply their minds to it or did not put in enough effort or took the whole coaching for the event more lightly than they should have. Well somehow we went through our weeks of practice or non practice and today was the day we went for the competition. Usually I take my kid and go but for some unknown but benign reason my dh said he was going to accompany me
. Rather than be grateful for the extra help I got all suspicious. As I had planned a day of shopping at some choice stores I knew this created a dent in my plan. But since one has to be supportive and all I nodded
. Then late last night a friend called and said her son will be joining my trip as he was in the competitions too. I was put in a spot and could not say NO.
So we four left early this morning. My dh would have asked me a million , I mean a million, times "Did you take the directions??". I have to deviate a little here to tell I am CLUELESS when it comes to directions.
Really!! For the life of me can never figure out East, West and stuff and am capabale of going up and down a road not knowing ITS the same road !! well thats me. A little more backup and I can tell once i was seriously guiding dh by "reading" a map (this was way back when he didnt know I didnt know I couldnt read a MAP)..so after we got lost for the umpteenth time he looked over my shoulder to make sure I had the correct MAP.. Ofcourse I had the Correct map ONLY it was upside down.
.So anyways TODAY i said i had noted the directions. But he was more assured when he heard it from my son that the directions were there. Inspite of this all , we did manage to get LOST and who do you think was blamed , innocent me.. Meanwhile my friend's son was very upset with us for travelling without a GPS system.. really the kids these days.. They have all these fancy toys when i think it would suffice to note down in paper..well again somehow we got into the building and found the room.
By now dh was mad that I didnt get the directions right, son was mad that we were running late and friend's son was mad we didnt have the GPS and I was mad that they ALL blamed it on me when I was faultless.. talk about temperaments..and then when we entered the room the teacher was mad we showed up late..BTW we did manage to win 4th place and 1st place .
Really now I am sitting back and thinking how does one even handle so many different opinions and so many temperamental people.. especially when one is focussed on participating on a competition ..the tension and expectations of others become really high.. so one is more prone to attitudes and even yelling at each other.How do you even try and handle all this.. I am even thinking of not going any more..But being there does count..When I told my father how I had to put up with everyone's temperaments..he said thats why I am sitting so far away GET IT??
. Rather than be grateful for the extra help I got all suspicious. As I had planned a day of shopping at some choice stores I knew this created a dent in my plan. But since one has to be supportive and all I nodded. Then late last night a friend called and said her son will be joining my trip as he was in the competitions too. I was put in a spot and could not say NO. So we four left early this morning. My dh would have asked me a million , I mean a million, times "Did you take the directions??". I have to deviate a little here to tell I am CLUELESS when it comes to directions.
Really!! For the life of me can never figure out East, West and stuff and am capabale of going up and down a road not knowing ITS the same road !! well thats me. A little more backup and I can tell once i was seriously guiding dh by "reading" a map (this was way back when he didnt know I didnt know I couldnt read a MAP)..so after we got lost for the umpteenth time he looked over my shoulder to make sure I had the correct MAP.. Ofcourse I had the Correct map ONLY it was upside down..So anyways TODAY i said i had noted the directions. But he was more assured when he heard it from my son that the directions were there. Inspite of this all , we did manage to get LOST and who do you think was blamed , innocent me.. Meanwhile my friend's son was very upset with us for travelling without a GPS system.. really the kids these days.. They have all these fancy toys when i think it would suffice to note down in paper..well again somehow we got into the building and found the room.By now dh was mad that I didnt get the directions right, son was mad that we were running late and friend's son was mad we didnt have the GPS and I was mad that they ALL blamed it on me when I was faultless.. talk about temperaments..and then when we entered the room the teacher was mad we showed up late..BTW we did manage to win 4th place and 1st place .
Really now I am sitting back and thinking how does one even handle so many different opinions and so many temperamental people.. especially when one is focussed on participating on a competition ..the tension and expectations of others become really high.. so one is more prone to attitudes and even yelling at each other.How do you even try and handle all this.. I am even thinking of not going any more..But being there does count..When I told my father how I had to put up with everyone's temperaments..he said thats why I am sitting so far away GET IT??
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 |  so u endorse that book why men dont listen and woman cant read maps, wish u had given ur husband to drive you would had saved a lot more disharmony,mm i know by now you have ur strategy up what to do next time around..sunkan |
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| |  The man was driving and asked me to read the map Sundari.. which book is this..maybe i should atleast read it ?! :) BTW He will never stop and ask for directions hmmmm?!!? |
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| | it is just like its title, why men dont listen and woman can't read maps, is the title, some barbara and one more even varalotti read that when i and sathya recommended that to him and raved about it in one of his article, very good dont miss i am sure you will be enlightened a lot and would come to terms instead of fretting about the men folk poor fellows are given a dose of ego in 6 weeks. |
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| | The focus for me is on different temperaments.. how the clashes occur between people esp when going into a competition..also how one needs to adjust to different temperaments while going as a group and can get along with others too..Thanks sundari for your additional comment..map reading was just one of the things that happened not main topic.. |
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| |  Dear Anandchitra When I was reading this was just remembering my DH. hahaha he too is same as u regarding directions, even after explaining to him 10 times he will still land up in the wrong place........ Once so happened he had to go for a meeting and I explained to him drew a map of the roads wrote which way to turn land marks and all, looking at that even a blind person can land up to that place but lol he landed up in the wrong place and later he had to call me and had to help him out........But thank God he reached in time as he has the habit of reaching places 15 minutes early, but here he was right on time. Congrats for getting the 4th place |
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| |  Dear AC akka, Why blame poor YDH... You were given the directions... What is his fault... I can understand YDS getting upset... But why the friends Son.... Anyway.... Congrats on winning the 4th Place.... (On a lighter side... hope there are not - only 4 participants.... hahahaha... Pls laugh... I dont want to play around when you are mad...). Normally, in these conditions, I take the precaution of going the earlier day to that place and locating the venue etc... so that I need not have to be late for the programmes... Shan is normally very good in giving location details.... I will be talking of Chennai and she will be talking about Bangalore... Hope she is not reading this.... So, I make my own judgement and go the previous day and verify the place.... Fortunately in Muscat there is not so much complicated locations.... Dear Sunkan, but why you have generalised it I dont know.... Veda |
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| |  hi AC, Somebody who gets confused on the right and left is poking at me..  Come on veda you know i remember things well...location, places and my memory is good...otherwise i would not have succeed in giving current sq.ft thread so much information. veda will ask shall we go there, and by the time i decide he would have cross that and then will blame me ,why could you not have told me before crossing, I always wonder if it is just an excuse of asking..  |
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| | Ha HA Chitra good one, I have to agree though with you, as to why everyone thinks that they make a scapegoat of us women ( Dh, DS, Friend and what not....). I mean even my Dh will not stop and ask for directions, I have to do it. And then If i tell him go left, he will say we have to go right!!... So I give up. Having faced all the different temperements, and putting up with it. Do they all realise its the " Calm before the Storm"? |
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| | Aruna..that is a nice one..same happened to my dh also because of wrong directions given by me..btw ..what did you feel about temperaments and any tips on how to handle them.. |
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| | Veda I really really wanted to hear your take on this one my thanbi.. now that u say why blame dh. i am going to have to agree.. i prefer your idea of going earlier..i love your line talking about chennai..while she is talking about b'lore..What do you think about handling temperamental people..or rather how to handle them.. |
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| | Shanthi believe it or not my dh does the same thing .. asking and by the time i decide we have crossed and ofcourse I am to blame.. But knowing you so far i know you cannot be as bad as i am with directions.. |
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| | Vandhana it was definitely storm before calm..maybe your tournament or competition experiences are better than mine.. also your kids are nice like you are.. they say children get their temperaments from parents.. no wonder i have my hands full.. |
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| | Dear AC akka, I am not the right person to talk about that... Since Shan has already stepped in... I have to be really careful... Because... hehehehehehehe... I am also in the same category... In most of the cases, the tempermental people dont use their logical mind.... they use their emotional mind... The emotions lead to the temperments... Once they cool down if you talk to them nicely and explain things.... they will understand accept their mistakes... Atleast I do... (hope Shan also agrees with me...)... They think and act based on their emotions.... Not on logics and calculations... Once they burst out.... then they will forget it... At the time of outburst... If you just leave it instead of aggravating by explaining or giving logics.... then they themselves will cooldown.... These tempermental people are the most affectionate people... They give their heart in whatever they do.... That is the main reason, when it is not going as per their requirements they get agitated and tempermental.... This is my logical version... May be I am wrong.... Veda |
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| | Veda your analysis of people never cease to amaze me..you are more successful because you know how to handle them better.. a very excellent reply and one which can always be used for future reference by ME..thanks.. |
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| |  Dear AC, My DH too does the same!!! Blame it on me for the worng direction and I wud have forgotten to take the address. Fumble and find their phone number an sheepishly ask them for the route. Though Iam better at spoting the areas, DH is good at directions. Like if in T.Nagar or any other area I will know where this lane maybe, more familiar with the nooks of Chennai having lived here all along. Gulity of being more tempramental!!!! |
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| |  Dear Ac, Prevention is better than cure. Do not give the chance to temparamental people to flare up. But I know there are people who are waiting or should I say that the temper is waiting at the nosetip to explode, then you should turn your back and leave the place until the temper cools down. PS |
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| | Janani the more you write and i read i feel we are more like sisters or even twins.. same pinch on everything..so when we meet we will have lots to talk about.. |
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| | P.S the best tip of all for me..thanks..now I should remember it when I need it..that is going to be even more difficult as i always forget everything.. |
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| |  Dear AC, Congrats for winning the prizes. I really appreciate your patience to teach for the competition in spite of all the odds you have been facing the whole day. I have to disagree with Veda in his explanations about Tempermental People "These tempermental people are the most affectionate people... They give their heart in whatever they do.... That is the main reason, when it is not going as per their requirements they get agitated and tempermental...." Veda's words. Only those who are highly affectionate towards you and those who think they have all rights over you get tempermental. At times, even though it is going according to their requirements, the tension of the situation (like the one you were in AC), makes them tempermental. People at times wont even know that they have said those words or the words have affected the person towards whom they have said those words. If you ask them a bit later, as to why you have said this they will question you back, did I tell you? So it is always better to pay no heed to these people who get tempermental when situation is worse and even more better dont take things to heart even if you hear it. |
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| |  hello chitra whoever wrote that book why men dont listen and women cant read maps sure needs some mentions pref etched it some glittering stuff (why would they need gold?) asking directions doesnt come easily to men we lost our way when we went to visit a temple like palani in bangalore and my brother in law refused to ask for directions we went round and round found and found another temple but the lost experience was great at this was a temple for adhiseshan flood lit lemon yellow... the snake (?) was decorated with flowers white yellow red and green wow thank god we lost ourselves... there are more to this book....and needs a huge blog to say.. our side of it...! (has nothing spl to mention of indian women) goes brag brag about ladies not being able to reverse cars right..!! but i plan to give him another seventy bucks (hey thats what i paid on a roadside bargain..!) a dozen or so books and given as gift ahaha sathya |
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