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Influences on Life
Posted 28th March 2008 at 03:42 PM by Anandchitra
As I raise my child and watch my niece and nephew growing up, I can see clearly how people and circumstances shape and mould a child .. So many factors are influencing a young ones mind. I know I can reflect on some factors for example..My mother gives so much importance to cooking food and especially making dinner everyday- And there I might have got the habit of making sure I cook at home everyday but for some exception; One act of hers that has definetly impacted me would be her conducting "devasam".. I remember being small and wondered why everyone got up so early and kept on cooking..But this trait came in handy when my turn came. My parents are very religious and so my involvement in religion. My grandparents used to take me to satsang and all discourses in the temple all the time and my involvement in being spiritual. (Did anyone catch me noting only good points here?!
My husband is very outgoing and friendly and so I am little bit better than what i used to be.. My mother inlaw used to outreach others easily and always wanted to help the people who worked for her..I did get some of it..From my FIL ofcourse all cooking related discipline upto cutting vegetables and such.. My son has his interest inMath from his father and outgoing attitude from my inlaws.. He always arranges his things meticulously and I know somehow he has been influenced by my FIL..
Isnt interesting to note the subtle but real influences in life..Sometime teachers play a great role in this too. My son has an excellent history teacher and she excels in the art of story telling. With that and an active imagination my son is fond of history. My dh loves to garden and tinker with tools and those are interests from his father. His love of music is from his mother.Even now my dh remembers his Math teachers who ignited in him the love and passion for Math.
Not the least in this list would be my brothers dog. The dog is so loving to one and all and never demands anything from anyone. He is very happy when we play with him and attend to him but is fine to lie beside your feet otherwise. What great influence is that? Some people who are public figures also play as role model in our life. Could be high achieving as Indra Nooyi or a great actress or actor too! Have you ever thought where from a particular interest came into your life? How did you develop it..who influenced you to pursue it? So, why dont you share some influences on your life be it friend, family or teacher...
My husband is very outgoing and friendly and so I am little bit better than what i used to be.. My mother inlaw used to outreach others easily and always wanted to help the people who worked for her..I did get some of it..From my FIL ofcourse all cooking related discipline upto cutting vegetables and such.. My son has his interest inMath from his father and outgoing attitude from my inlaws.. He always arranges his things meticulously and I know somehow he has been influenced by my FIL..
Isnt interesting to note the subtle but real influences in life..Sometime teachers play a great role in this too. My son has an excellent history teacher and she excels in the art of story telling. With that and an active imagination my son is fond of history. My dh loves to garden and tinker with tools and those are interests from his father. His love of music is from his mother.Even now my dh remembers his Math teachers who ignited in him the love and passion for Math.
Not the least in this list would be my brothers dog. The dog is so loving to one and all and never demands anything from anyone. He is very happy when we play with him and attend to him but is fine to lie beside your feet otherwise. What great influence is that? Some people who are public figures also play as role model in our life. Could be high achieving as Indra Nooyi or a great actress or actor too! Have you ever thought where from a particular interest came into your life? How did you develop it..who influenced you to pursue it? So, why dont you share some influences on your life be it friend, family or teacher...
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 |  Dear Anand chitra, Lovely post.I enjoyed every word youve written. Well as you travel through the relations of life and from one to another you watch and sdopt a lot of things from other, the so called influences with out realising that you are being influenced. Like for eg When I was unmarried I watched my mothr multitask and perform her duties very perfectly and wondered why she did so much and now when I am playing the roles she once played I realise that it comes to me with relative ease because of my mothers influence. My greatest influence in life is my Father , with whom God permitted a vry short time but fruitful enough to be influenced by some qualities that i am glad i posses . Call it influence or genetics though I prefer the former. Yes my teachers have also influenced me to a great extent , especially in honing my skills. Friends ,well friends I had were always like minded so I wont necessarily consider them to have had any influence on me. But the most surprising influence has been my young daughter , Neiv,who has taught me to laugh a lot and I have learnt to forgive and forget a lot more easily and move on seeing my child do the same. So you see dear my influences range from a tiny tot to a sexagenarian. Sorry for the loooonnnnggg reply but just couldnt hold myself! Love, Devika |
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| |  Dear Chitra, Isn't it Hillary Clinton who once said " It takes a village to raise a child? My mother has influenced in me in cooking and other household maintenance. Growing up, I thought I was not going to be good in the Kitchen section, but somehow I have subconsciously followed her. My father has greatly influenced in me with his organizational skills , time management and love for travel. Both have influenced a great deal when it comes to religion an morals. In their own way, my husband and kids have also influenced me. But I also notice, that children sometimes may not develop the same talent as their parents, but they will possess talents in a different area. |
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| |  I am very grateful for your long reply..never thought I'd get the appreciation.. thank you dear Devika.. It is extemely interesting what you write about your daughter.. I agree how the children can influence us.. One of the incidents I remember the most was when son was around 4 or so.. we had guests and a kid spilt something on the carpet.. I said its o.k. and cleaned up with smile.. so my son asked when we spill something you get upset but if its someone from outside you dont? .. made me really think.. ever since then I have eyes set on the correct priorities.. first my family ALWAYS.. I am sorry you did not have as much time with your father.. I think its the influence for sure and not genetics as much.. And you have brought about a great point on friends.. we do tend to have like minded so they might not contribute as much.. Please next time do write as much as you desire as i realise NOW that the posts and threads here too influence! |
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| | It does take a village to raise a child.. thank yu for yur very endearing reply my young friend Usha.. sometimes children too take on other interests and have other talents too..that is quite natural..I just noticed that you do scrapbooking also.. that is my absolute number one hobby.. done many..but yet to do my wedding album.. hope to get it done before 25wa.. sorry to deviate.. One thing about mothers and cooking is that my mother used to spend a lot of time in the kitchen..i certainly DONT.. i am famous for my 30 minutes meals (which for the most part is rasam + veg + rice).. while rasam an cooker are going i cut veggies and then voila i am done..never cease to amaze my father.. (o.k.enough about me)..I will give you a nice reply real sooooon..thank u friend:) |
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| | Few years ago, when scrapbooking was just beginning, the neighborhood store offered some free lessons before the holiday season. So I enrolled. Soon after that, I converted all our photos that were clinging on to sticker albums( yuck) into designer albums., I even went as far as coloring old B&W photos of our parents'wedding pictures. My DH, even though very appreciative commented 'BTW, have you noticed lately how much your hobby is costing" and quickly went and got me a digital camera saying that he was saving me time. My son even now comments that it is fun to look at them whereas before he was not motivated. But it is time consuming. Occasionally I stop at the store and have noticed that they have up with so many tools and options. Some of the ladies spend so much time and money like their life depends on them. |
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| | You have said it right.. some ladies do overdo it..I have a few stores where I get wholesale price and always get on discounts.. But its really nice to look back on some especially when I journal extensively..and i do it more for my dh as he loves to see them.. Its quite easy to get carried away and again there is so much new in the market..thanks Usha..glad to chat a little about common interests:) |
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| |  Glad that you started this......Dear AC, That was a good topic, to mull on the real influences in our life. Well written.....  True that as a child we get influenced very fast....so if we have had some good traits, we should be thankful to our parents for keeping us away from outside bad influences, isn't it? I am glad now that my mother pushed me into dancing( though there were occasions when i would hide in the bathroom, as i was scared of my dance master!  )Later on also i kept at it only at the insistence of my mom, who loved this art form and could not pursue it! Am i glad for that now! Like wise i learnt a lot from my father......to be calm and brave , listen patiently to others without judging anyone.... Of course my teachers were my greatest influencers.....so many of them came in my life .....cant list here. But good time to think about them and send a silent Thank you to all of them. Not to mention, my DH and DD and my friends and of course IL:::What a great influence they are ALL ! Isn't it! True we get shaped by all these influences! Now our turn......to be Good individuals and spread some good influence around us! |
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| | Sudha you really are like your avatar..such a pretty pretty rose blooming so gently..your words about mother touches a chord in me..as I hope to be that someday.. I was always told growing that i wouldnt amount to much..so I want to do different for my kid.. you have so nicely said about your dad and friends and family:) |
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| | Dear Anandchithra, I didnt mean overstay your welcome but I had to come here again . The reason I forgot to mention a lady who was very instrumental in my upbringing, and if I will not mention her here I will never be able to face God. When I was a toddler ,my mother kept me under the care of a lady from Australia,Mrs. D'sa. A wonderful lady she took care of me till the age of 10 , thereafter too she was a major part of my life. She is highly responsible for a lot of good things that happened in my life. She left India when I was 15 and then we lost track ,I just once recieved a message from her daughter that they were planning to move out . But then lost touch.Though I tried to get in touch later ,my efforts were futile. Mrs. D'sa wherever you are I may not be able to convey this to you personally but in my heart,I shall forever be indebted. Anandchithra I am sorry for trespassing again! Love, Devika |
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| |  Dear AC, Children are the best imitators it is said. It is real wonder how they observe each person and imbibe the same. When i was married, as a new bride marriage had its set of teething problems but I should be thankful to my late father for influencing me so much in my life. Today I can proudly boast of myself being a success in JFS (as there is nobody to do the same). He used to always tell me not to speak very curtly maybe my intentions were not that but the way I used to put the same. He used to tell me just see how better you can say the same thing. I have been using the same in all walks of my life,I can myself see a marked difference. I never knew my elder dd had got this from me till recently. She was in our family friend's house for her vacation. Their they were installing AC and wiring was being done. This electrician after waiting for the whole day, turned up only in the evening when they were ready to go out. My dd very politely asked (but showing her dissappointment for coming when they were ready to go) him as to why he was so late? Our Family friend who was observing their exchange came & told me, see your dd has got your communication skills. Last but not the least, I was very much influenced by the magazine called Woman's Era. I have been reading the same from my class X and I should say I have gained a lot from that. As usual, your writeup is always great & a pleasure to read. |
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| | Woman's Era .. all but forgot about it.. Thank you for writing here.. dear Lallu.. I really have to take a lesson or two from your mention about talking nicely.. I know I dont do that well at all but after reading your post I think i will try your technique too:) |
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| | Nice one AC. Have been meaning to chime in. Nice to read everyone’s FBs too. Influences are many in my life too. Mom for her unwavering faith in God and a total absence of greed and jealousy in her personality. I cannot claim that I am like her in the later but I have very few traces of greed and jealousy, if any!  Dad for his may-be-down-but-never-out attitude, his straightforward behavior and his zeal to live a wholesome and positive life.My close friend’s brother -he was my role model for everything I wanted to be at that age (teenage and beyond). He was an all rounder and I wanted to be just like him. My liking for sports and martial arts came from him. One of my Taekwondo teachers for her keep-it-simple dressing up (almost tomboyish!), her nonchalant behavior amidst an art that was heavily dominated by men (at least then -17+ yrs ago). JRD Tata for his unparalled humility, his compassionate nature, his no-airs about himself attitude and his punctuality. Kiran Bedi for the fighter in her, her killer instinct to succeed against many odds and her forthright nature. My sisters for their unconditional love and support no matter what. Cannot ever replicate that in anyone. Husband and kids - Hubby for his gift of gab and excellent writing skills. Kids for their “fair to everyone” innocence. There are a few more that I could write about. But these should suffice for now! SS |
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| | SS if I say you write better than my lead post you always disagree..But trust me now your examples that you quote sound so inspiring and so you write better ?! how about that??.. you must be proud of your mother and father and other influences too.. The point about the kids touched me..they really are so innocent.. they are a definete source of inspiration there:) |
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| |  hi chitra, nice thought provoking post. it kindered my memory and here is my role models list my father - for his managerial skills. though i dont agree with him completely on so many things, he was the one who taught me to be proud of myself. my 3rd std teacher - who taught us to thanks little gifts from anyone. She gave her address and asked us to send the annual exam result. it was the year, she retired. I sent a little thank u note for her teachings, and sent her my result. my history teacher - who made me rethink about my horrible handwriting and to do something about it. i did not follow her advice, but sure realised her importance after few years my 12th chemistry teacher - for believing in me, and gradually raising my capability my friend radha for helping me look at stars in a different way.- she taught me hunter formation and stuff in constellations. a practical lesson, i still remember my friends from other school for teaching me not everyone is nice and sweet. my college teacher priya for acknowledging my love for writing and learning. and so on and on. the list in endless. the point is that we keep on learning something new everyday until our last day on earth |
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| | The point is we keep on learning something new everyday.. nice point swtsvn.. You have also written so very very well.. a pleasure to read..Thanks for stepping in:) |
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| | Dear AC, I forgot to add an important disclaimer above. By no stretch of imagination do I claim that I exhibit the positive traits I have listed above. These are mere influences that may or may not have rubbed off of me. More likely, most of them haven’t rubbed off on me J SS |
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| | More likely they have rubbed off on you!! I can tell:) |
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| |  AC, Long back I had written on who influenced you in the snippets forum. I always believe influence can be both negative or positive..but if we are matured enough to take the positives and leave the negatives and move ahead it is great I learn a lot everyday. My husband for his honesty, and straightforward way of dealing things. My children i learn about the trust you keep on people u love. My Dad for his hardwork and dedication. My MIL for her love for kids...my fil for his honesty. I used to have a husband and wife couple as my hindi and english teachers..though i was small always would admire their rapport. and they were surely influencing in my passion for the languages. My Patti for her never say die and dare devil attitude..which has rubbed off on me. I also admire Veda's patti who still 2 years back was washing her own 9 yards, jet black hair,and her love for good food.. (she is 95 today..) |
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| | Shanthi this would not havebeen complete without yur input yaar.. i didnt know about your thread.. Its very interesting to read how everyone in your life have influenced you especially your language teachers.. I think grandparents always influence us with their dedication and hardwork:) |
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| | Hi dear Im Lavanya a new member, u are right people around influence the young minds more, Im a mother of twins and as I watch them grow everyday Im amazed at their grasping power and their activities, one son of mine resemble my father more and the other just like my husband, both are so different in their attitudes. They spend most of their time with me and their grand parents and very less time with their father. My eldest son is just a miniature version of my dad a very strict disciplinarian, he just wants everything neat and tidy at the age of two and itz too good to watch him boss around his brother. Children are just our replicas, its nice to watch them grow especially around 3 years |
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