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Temperament
Posted 23rd February 2008 at 09:06 PM by Anandchitra
Updated 24th February 2008 at 01:18 PM by Anandchitra
Updated 24th February 2008 at 01:18 PM by Anandchitra
Of late I have been really trying to coach some kids for a Science tournament. I say trying because if one shows for the class the other does not and if 2 shows up it rains, or class room not availabe or even one day the projector fell down while I was TRYING to teach and scared the kids. Also I was continually disappointed that they all did not apply their minds to it or did not put in enough effort or took the whole coaching for the event more lightly than they should have. Well somehow we went through our weeks of practice or non practice and today was the day we went for the competition. Usually I take my kid and go but for some unknown but benign reason my dh said he was going to accompany me
. Rather than be grateful for the extra help I got all suspicious. As I had planned a day of shopping at some choice stores I knew this created a dent in my plan. But since one has to be supportive and all I nodded
. Then late last night a friend called and said her son will be joining my trip as he was in the competitions too. I was put in a spot and could not say NO.
So we four left early this morning. My dh would have asked me a million , I mean a million, times "Did you take the directions??". I have to deviate a little here to tell I am CLUELESS when it comes to directions.
Really!! For the life of me can never figure out East, West and stuff and am capabale of going up and down a road not knowing ITS the same road !! well thats me. A little more backup and I can tell once i was seriously guiding dh by "reading" a map (this was way back when he didnt know I didnt know I couldnt read a MAP)..so after we got lost for the umpteenth time he looked over my shoulder to make sure I had the correct MAP.. Ofcourse I had the Correct map ONLY it was upside down.
.So anyways TODAY i said i had noted the directions. But he was more assured when he heard it from my son that the directions were there. Inspite of this all , we did manage to get LOST and who do you think was blamed , innocent me.. Meanwhile my friend's son was very upset with us for travelling without a GPS system.. really the kids these days.. They have all these fancy toys when i think it would suffice to note down in paper..well again somehow we got into the building and found the room.
By now dh was mad that I didnt get the directions right, son was mad that we were running late and friend's son was mad we didnt have the GPS and I was mad that they ALL blamed it on me when I was faultless.. talk about temperaments..and then when we entered the room the teacher was mad we showed up late..BTW we did manage to win 4th place and 1st place .
Really now I am sitting back and thinking how does one even handle so many different opinions and so many temperamental people.. especially when one is focussed on participating on a competition ..the tension and expectations of others become really high.. so one is more prone to attitudes and even yelling at each other.How do you even try and handle all this.. I am even thinking of not going any more..But being there does count..When I told my father how I had to put up with everyone's temperaments..he said thats why I am sitting so far away GET IT??
. Rather than be grateful for the extra help I got all suspicious. As I had planned a day of shopping at some choice stores I knew this created a dent in my plan. But since one has to be supportive and all I nodded. Then late last night a friend called and said her son will be joining my trip as he was in the competitions too. I was put in a spot and could not say NO. So we four left early this morning. My dh would have asked me a million , I mean a million, times "Did you take the directions??". I have to deviate a little here to tell I am CLUELESS when it comes to directions.
Really!! For the life of me can never figure out East, West and stuff and am capabale of going up and down a road not knowing ITS the same road !! well thats me. A little more backup and I can tell once i was seriously guiding dh by "reading" a map (this was way back when he didnt know I didnt know I couldnt read a MAP)..so after we got lost for the umpteenth time he looked over my shoulder to make sure I had the correct MAP.. Ofcourse I had the Correct map ONLY it was upside down..So anyways TODAY i said i had noted the directions. But he was more assured when he heard it from my son that the directions were there. Inspite of this all , we did manage to get LOST and who do you think was blamed , innocent me.. Meanwhile my friend's son was very upset with us for travelling without a GPS system.. really the kids these days.. They have all these fancy toys when i think it would suffice to note down in paper..well again somehow we got into the building and found the room.By now dh was mad that I didnt get the directions right, son was mad that we were running late and friend's son was mad we didnt have the GPS and I was mad that they ALL blamed it on me when I was faultless.. talk about temperaments..and then when we entered the room the teacher was mad we showed up late..BTW we did manage to win 4th place and 1st place .
Really now I am sitting back and thinking how does one even handle so many different opinions and so many temperamental people.. especially when one is focussed on participating on a competition ..the tension and expectations of others become really high.. so one is more prone to attitudes and even yelling at each other.How do you even try and handle all this.. I am even thinking of not going any more..But being there does count..When I told my father how I had to put up with everyone's temperaments..he said thats why I am sitting so far away GET IT??
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Dear Ac,
Prevention is better than cure. Do not give the chance to temparamental people to flare up. But I know there are people who are waiting or should I say that the temper is waiting at the nosetip to explode, then you should turn your back and leave the place until the temper cools down.
PSPosted 26th February 2008 at 02:24 AM by Pushpavalli Srinivasan
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Janani the more you write and i read i feel we are more like sisters or even twins.. same pinch on everything..so when we meet we will have lots to talk about..Posted 26th February 2008 at 05:47 AM by Anandchitra - P.S the best tip of all for me..thanks..now I should remember it when I need it..that is going to be even more difficult as i always forget everything..Posted 26th February 2008 at 05:48 AM by Anandchitra
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Dear AC,
Congrats for winning the prizes. I really appreciate your patience to teach for the competition in spite of all the odds you have been facing the whole day. I have to disagree with Veda in his explanations about Tempermental People
"These tempermental people are the most affectionate people... They give their heart in whatever they do.... That is the main reason, when it is not going as per their requirements they get agitated and tempermental...." Veda's words.
Only those who are highly affectionate towards you and those who think they have all rights over you get tempermental. At times, even though it is going according to their requirements, the tension of the situation (like the one you were in AC), makes them tempermental. People at times wont even know that they have said those words or the words have affected the person towards whom they have said those words. If you ask them a bit later, as to why you have said this they will question you back, did I tell you?
So it is always better to pay no heed to these people who get tempermental when situation is worse and even more better dont take things to heart even if you hear it.Posted 27th February 2008 at 12:46 AM by rajmiarun -
hello chitra
whoever wrote that book
why men dont listen
and women cant read maps
sure needs some mentions
pref etched it some glittering stuff
(why would they need gold?)
asking directions doesnt come easily to men
we lost our way when we went to visit
a temple like palani in bangalore
and my brother in law refused to ask for directions
we went round and round
found and found another temple
but the lost experience was great
at this was a temple for adhiseshan
flood lit lemon yellow...
the snake (?) was decorated
with flowers white yellow red and green
wow thank god we lost ourselves...
there are more to this book....and needs a huge blog to say..
our side of it...!
(has nothing spl to mention of indian women)
goes brag brag about ladies not being able to reverse cars right..!!
but i plan to give him another seventy bucks
(hey thats what i paid on a roadside bargain..!)
a dozen or so books and given as gift
ahaha
sathyaPosted 27th February 2008 at 06:02 AM by sathya
