Learn To Express Ur Emotions Well

Develop your vocabulary. Read, write, speak, and listen. You can obtain anything based upon how you present yourself. Your first job, your first love, and the ability to influence others will be gained through how you present and carry yourself. Stand tall, articulate your point of view, speak clearly, and go forward. In doing so, you do not find yourself; on the contrary, you create the self you want to be.



Being articulate and learning to communicate to all types of people is a skill that is developed. When I first started in the arena of public speaking, I basically shot straight from the hip. I spoke from just one point of view-my own. I didn't take the time to consider other viewpoints or methods of dealing with life and being a student of life. But as I grew, somehow I began to realize that I needed to examine my theories, delve into things, and really think about things more deeply.



It's immature to think that you can deal with life without thinking things through. I find myself always questioning the mechanism whereby I change things. What can I do to make things better? What can I do to improve and change? Public speaking forced me to really apply myself in the areas of writing down my ideas and thinking them through. In turn, this process caused me to further develop my ideas, as well as my speaking skills. I had to constantly work to improve my skills, my posture, my vocabulary, and the way I relate and communicate to people.



I had to know what I valued and be intrigued by what other people valued; then, I could have some sort of discussion. Sometimes in order to know your own viewpoint, you need to come in contact with opposing points of view. I've concluded that people tend to see the world based on the particular "lens" they are looking through. In other words, people see the world through their own filter, or way of thinking and perceiving. What results is that people see what they want to see.



For example, a person who is self-conscious about his or her weight may walk into a room full of people and the first thing they may notice is how big or small everyone else is. The weight issue becomes a "lens" through which they view the world. However, someone who is comfortable with his or her weight won't notice everyone else's weight at all. They walk into a room full of people and just enjoy mingling and getting to know everyone. For them, the weight issue isn't even a factor.



Recognize that everyone may not share your same viewpoint. Others may see the world through an entirely different lens, based on their own past experiences, training, influences, and insecurities. They may see things that you don't and vice versa. To get more skilled at speaking to groups and expressing yourself verbally, delve into and embrace a broader range of experiences and viewpoints than just your own. Learning to first relate to people on their level will open a door for communication to begin as well as to be received.





(Excerpt taken from John Alston's book entitled, Why Goodness Must Be Taught.)

Hi Sunkan,

I am amazed by the voracious reading you do and your cravings on reading variety of books. Hmm, Now I get a chance to enlighten myself on different topics by just reading your threads. So Please read more and post many more threads for our development

Cheers,
SVRLax.

Dear Sunkan
That is wonderful topic you have brought up here to learn to express your emotions. In case we don't express it well the other person will never understand you especially the one you are dear too.
Presenting yourself 1st is equally important as 1st impression is the last impression.

Originally Posted by svrlax

Hi Sunkan,

I am amazed by the voracious reading you do and your cravings on reading variety of books. Hmm, Now I get a chance to enlighten myself on different topics by just reading your threads. So Please read more and post many more threads for our development

Cheers,
SVRLax.

wah wah svr,
want the condensed form eh, not bad any way i think u r lucky to be around here and i enjoy posting all what i enjoy reading sure there will be more, and of course a feed back like this is pretty encouraging u c..sunkan

Originally Posted by Arunarc

Dear Sunkan
That is wonderful topic you have brought up here to learn to express your emotions. In case we don't express it well the other person will never understand you especially the one you are dear too.
Presenting yourself 1st is equally important as 1st impression is the last impression.

very much aruna,
half the fight is we get misled by the trail of conversation and end up saying something which we never had in our mind so this is also a training to bring into focus what u actually want to say...sunkan

Dear sunkan,
Thanks for presenting a useful info.
When everybody thinks the way you have written, there won't be problems for simple issues as discussed more in cheeiya's sir thread relating to trivial issues.

We often look only at our point of view.I have looked at many people not listening to what others say.

The art of listening is the key to perfect communication.

It involves as how we listen to other's opinion as well as communicate clearly on what we say and deal accordingly.

Thanks for sharing..

Originally Posted by BhargaviChakravarthy

Dear sunkan,
Thanks for presenting a useful info.
When everybody thinks the way you have written, there won't be problems for simple issues as discussed more in cheeiya's sir thread relating to trivial issues.

We often look only at our point of view.I have looked at many people not listening to what others say.

The art of listening is the key to perfect communication.

It involves as how we listen to other's opinion as well as communicate clearly on what we say and deal accordingly.

Thanks for sharing..

very true bhargavi,
when in anger we shut our ears and are bent on proving our points to show we are right though we may be otherwise but sometime silence is a very good response however much they scream if one could be silent and then at the appropriate moment if enlightened it does help..sunkan

Sunkan,

excellent tips...true, vocabulary plays a part....sometimes gestures help people around you to understand, but I don't think that will be of great help in public speech..

Thinking that there may be other views is itself a good step to express our feelings cautiously...and effectively later on...

sriniketan

Hi Sunkan,

Thanks for sharing this excerpt about emotions.

Like you mentioned, we need to have an open mind when we talk to people.
If we have a rigid view, then it becomes difficult to communicate and sustain healthy relationships.

Having said that, our thoughts need to be crystal clear and should not be muddled by diverse opinions. Clarity in our thoughts brings clarity in speech too!

Regards
Krithika ( Jithiks)

Originally Posted by Jithiks

Hi Sunkan,

Thanks for sharing this excerpt about emotions.

Like you mentioned, we need to have an open mind when we talk to people.
If we have a rigid view, then it becomes difficult to communicate and sustain healthy relationships.

Having said that, our thoughts need to be crystal clear and should not be muddled by diverse opinions. Clarity in our thoughts brings clarity in speech too!

Regards
Krithika ( Jithiks)

dear krithika,
mushrooms are always there and one has to know what one wants among the flowers..sunkan