love problem

hi, this is jyothi,

naku meenunchi oka salaha kavali, nenu recent ge degree complete chesanu, final year lo oka abbayini love chesanu,


thanu business chestharu, chadhuvu kunnaru and manchi varu,



problem emitante memu brahmins, thanu gowdas,

prasththam idhri intlonu sambandhalu chusthunnaru, naku thanu ante pranam alage maa dady anna naku chala istam,

prasthutham nenu etu thelchukolekunna,

thanu matram idhru kavalante kudhradhu, idhrilo evaru kavalo thelchuko, apudu mundu register marrage chesukuni pedhalanu voppinchi arrainged marrage chesukundam tharu vatha ninnu chadivisthnu antunnaru, naku emcheyalo theliyadam ledhu plz

just few points that can help in coming to a conclusion
nenu emi suggest cheyyanu cause mee intlo paristhithi meeru ishtapade abbyi kanna kuda meeke baga thelusu

meeku ee abbyi kavala? leka elati abbyini mee daddy vethiki thechina fine a?
meeru lekunda aa abbyi manage chesukogalada?
oka vela meeru eppudu aa abbayini chesukunte tharavtha mee parents approve chestharani nammakam vundha?
aa abbayi medha entha varaku nammakam vundhi?
mee parents eppatiki oopukokapoyina parledha?
mee parents ki virdhanga chesukunte kachithanga parents support vundadhu few days.mari friends or relatives evaranna support chesthara?
meeru aa abbyi valla culture lo mingle ayyi vundgalara?


ivvani alochinchandi
evvariki answer cheyyalsina avasaram ledhu
evannni alochinchukoni oka decision thesukondi

cheers

Jyothi,

Gowdas and Brahmins antunnaru. Gouds eat non-veg, you must have taught about all this before for sure though.Implies even if you eat or not, your kids will be brought up in Gouda culture. More important Business families anta konchem rough ga untaru, maatalu kuda telangana style lo rough ga nee untundi.Business vallu ante meeru future lo mostly job chestanu ante opukoru are you ok with that?most important meeru ipudee degree pass ayaru, meeku aa abbai meedha enta namakam.Already chepesadu tanu, either me or your parents ani.So you sure to leave your parents. Because in future meeru mee parents ni intiki invite chesina akkada non-veg cook chestaru, meeree cook chestaru kuda.. idanta vallu tatuko galara..Monna TV loo chusanu Love unatime lo hormonal changes edo untundi anta, apudu evaru emichepina kani vinaru ani.Best thing is visualize yourself after 10 years, as housewife of business man, who comes late to house,drinks normally, eats non-veg, talks little rough, lovely lovely maatalu undavu apudu, only practical.not to scare you, but just imagine your life, you will decide by yourself.Chill.. manam enta anukunna anukokapoyina.. God emi decide chestee daniki virudam ga we cannot do anything.
Bye
Archana

Jyothi garu, naaku ikada una ladies anta exp ledu and neenu chala china compared to all of them ... but oka abbai point of view neenu kocham chepadaluchu kunanu andi.

first, mee intlo oopukoru adi ithe confirm bcoz im also a brahmin and naaku telusu mana houses lo elaga untaru ani ,so meeru pelli chesukunte intlo nuchi velipovali , antanu meeda complete namakam unte ne velali meeru.

Like you might say we loved each other so deep ani.... namakam and trust undi ani... okati cheputunanu jyothi garu... "Love shown my men before marriage will be completely different from the love shown after marriage" and neenu 90% luv couples iena jantalo chusanu idi....

first meeru adjust avali vala culture and traditions ki.... next pedalaku istam leni marriage kabati chala godavalu vastayi meeru vatini face cheyali... ee godavalu valana meeku mis understanding kuda ravachu... mee motherinlaw , FIL valatho free ga undaleru bcoz evariki istam leni pelli idi. both side relatives ekuva raru chudadaniki.

Neenu ani negative ga cheputunanu ani kakunda , nee chepina ee points ani postive ga oksari alochinchadi.

jyothi garu, istapadam , pelli chesukundam anukodam lo tapu ledu.... kani meeru ee problem chepare adi meeru tanani love chese mundu enduku alochinchaledu ... one min meeru ataniki "Yes" chepe mundu furture lo emi jarugutundi ani oka nimisham ee alochanalu apudu vachi unte meeru ilanti stage lo unde varru kadhu.

Inka archana garu chepinatu caste and business problems avi already discussion chesesaru.

finally neenu emi cheputunanu ante..... meeku nijaga ani problems faces cheyagalanu.... parents and relatives ko sambandahlu lekaopina parledu..... he is ther to look after me .... i trust him with my life ... ani anukunte .... U move on yar !

Leda 20+ years pechina mee parents , meeku inko 50+ years todu unde manishi valu vetiki pedataru haiga chesukondi.

Just be calm and think about all the possibilites you will face.

I wish you all the best in your life andi.


Regards
Rajesh

Hi jothi,

meeru munde alochincha leka poyaru. Ippudu ei paristhithilo nidananga alochinchi manchi nirnayaniki meeru ravali . adi chaala important.

Meeru brahmin a abbai di vera caste ante , ikaalamlo konni families lo oppukoni pillala santhosham kosram penli chestunnaru. Ala aithe manchidhi. Kaani mee intlo oppuko pothe adhi meeku chaala bhada kalipistundhi . Chadivinchi pedda chesina amma naana nu manasu nopinchi pelli cheskunte meeku santhosham untundha cheppandi?

Mee family lo atha mama relatives unte (chaala close aithe) vaalla tho consult chesi amma naana tho maatlada mani meeru cheppochu.

oppinchi pelli cheskondi athe manchithi. vaalla aseervadam tho meeru santhoshanga vei enlu bhaga kapuram chestharu. God Bless You

regards,
anandi

HI Jyothyarun......

Jyothi oka metured ammayi laga alochinchandi....I am also a Brahmin ........so mana entlo padathulu ani ela vunatyi meku teleda.....Vala entlo padathulu tho meru asalu adjest avaleru...love lo vunapudu antha baga ne vuntundi kani once practical ga alochisthe .....meke antha artham avuthudni...nenu love ki aginest anukokandi but...........even i got love marriage..that too intercast...memu vyshays and valu brahmins..........almost ani padathulu oka te ayina chala problems face chesam..epudu ok...kani mee vishayam lo baga alochinchu koni oka decession ki randi.............meru vidikulu ayithe i am shure that u r father is not going to accept this marriage at any cost.............hurt chesi vunte sorry ...........inter cast marriages anthe easy kadu.............

thanks 4 all,

nenu problem post cheyagane meeru andaru reply ichinanduku heartfull thanks,


meeru cheppina vishayalu chala curect, nenu thanatho matladanu, asalu first love propose chesindi nene,

thanu emannarante
nuvu ivanni alochinchela vunte asalu endhuku love express chesav,
antunnaru

thanu vallintlo andarini voppisthanantunnaru,

next na cereer gurinchi adigithe study vishayam lo nakanna thanake intrust ekkuva, manaku manchi qualification vunte pillal future baguntundi kabatti nuvu entha varaku chadhuvuthanu ante antha varaku chadivisthanu, next neeku istamayithe job chesuko vachu antunnaru,

valla family kuda chala gowravam kala family, valla area lo valloki manchi gud will vundi,

ika food vishayani vasthe nannu nv manemani anaku ninnu thinamani nenananu evari istam valladi, oka vela naku nv thinali ant nenu amma valla dhaggara thintanu nuvemi vandanavasaram ladhu, ledhante nene vandukuntanu, lekunte bayata thinta ok na antunnaru


finantial vishayaniki vasthe vallaki problems emilevu, vallu makanna rich family,

thanu engeneering chadivaru mari job cheyachuga ante, naku 5,000,10,000 salary ki andarini vidichi ekkado dhuram ga vundadam naku istam ledhu, ayina job chesina business cesina many sampadhinchadanike ga' naku per manth 25,000, 30,000, vasthundi, future bagunte income peragachu, allredy naku vere branch lu petti business dovolop chese idea vundi

next maa brother naku business lo thodu vunnadu, naku indipendent ga vundatam istam nenu okari kinda pani cheyalenu, neeku kavalisindi neeku ye lotu lekunda chusukovadam antha varaku alochinchu,

kabatti i don't like job antunnaru,

naku thana side nunchi oka problem kuda kanipinchadam ledhu, inter caste thappa,

problem antha naa side nunde, neneu first emi alochincha kunda thanaki express chesanu , ipudu thana kavala parents kavala anna vishyam thelchukolekunnanu'


maa intlo paristhithi ante brahmins inlo ela vuntundo thelusuga antha alage vuntundi, maa dady job chestharu amma hose wife , oka sister vundi, thanaku maa atha valla abbayini ichi marrage chstharu, thanu eng caduvuthundi,

oka vishayam emiti ante maa dady naku chalo close, nenu maa dady ki cheppana ante thanu

practical ga alochinchu mee dady entha close ayina inter caste marrage ki voppukoru, yes ante ok but no ante nuvu house arreste avuthavu apudu ye nirnayam theesukolev antunnaru, andariki thelisi manam marrage chesukokunte mee intlo nee goodwill pothundi

tharuvatha nuvu vere marrage chesukunna vallaki vishayam thelisthe bagodhu kadha

kabatti nuvve currect ga oka nirnayaniki ra, oka vishayam gurthu pettuko ipudu idhhariki marrage avaledhu kabatti alochinchukuni oka nirnayaniki ravachu, idhrilo evariki marrage ayina manam vidipovadam thappa, vere yemi vundadhu,
poni frends ga matladukundam ante ninnu love chesanu ipudu neeku entha value isthunnano, naku vere marrage ayithe aa ammayiki kuda nenu value ivvali kadha kabatti naku marrage ayithe nee moham kuda chudalenu, neeku kudharadhu,

idariki vere life partners manchivallu vasthe ok no problem, lekunte life long idharu bada padali gurthu pettuko,
love chesav kabatti nanne marrage chesukovali ani nenananu, marrage vishayam lo nee nirnayam needi,

kaka pothe manam marrage chesukunte mana love ki ardam vuntundi lekunte ledhu antunnaru



yes or no edho okati cheppu, ala nanchaku nenu intlo samadanam cheppukovaliga, neeku 100% naa meedhe confidence vunte s cheppu lekunte, ikkaditho e vishyam vadiley antunnaru,


emceyanu

Every married life will have different kinds of problems. Problems leni life ledu. Love chesina cheyakapoyina life lo adjustments thappadu. Its true that inter caste marr is not so easy. But also it is not impossible.

If you truly believe him, love him, I would suggest parents ni convince chesi pellichesukondi. It might be difficult. But you have to try rather than mundu register marriage chesukoni taravata pellichesukune kanna.

Mee situation meeke baga telustundi makanna. So forget about everything, take some time, think about yourself, parents, BF, Life. Taravata oka manchi decision ki randi.

hi jyothi,
inta disscussion endu kani,
nu chepadani bati ,neku ego undi.nuvvu first xpress chesinntamatrana he cant point u.and be practical
love is of 2 hearts ,marriage is about 2 families.xperience to cheptuna,arranged love marriages lo ne wifes chala sacrifice cheyalisivastundi.if parents acceptence ledanuku ante sangatulu
pg chesaka pelli gurinchi alochinchamani intlo chepandi,pg ending lo star convincening them.after pg a decision tisukunna u can stand on ur own.but dont betray ur parents.if they really lov u they wil accept ur lov.tel u r boyfreind to stop telling -either him or parents
it sounds rubbish.

jyothy garu nenu meeku already cheppanu mee intlo situation meekey thelusthundhi ani.cause meeru chinna danlo people make predictions with some general issues.andharu barmhins ki caste feelings vundavu in the same way migithavi kuda..

edhi hundred percent big question
propose chesey mundhu meeru evanni alochinchi vundalsinhi.. kaani past is past
but start thinking from now

dheeni solution okka meerey thesukogalaru
evvaru cheppaleru cause mee situation guess chestham kaani cheppalemu kadha

lucky ga choice kuda he left for you kadha

okkati life lo anni kavali andharini satisfy cheyyalante kudhradhu

so oka time vasthey okkatey option choose chesukovachu
meeku aa time vachindhi

and meeku freedom kuda vundhi kadha
baga alochinchi edho oka decision thesukondi

cheers