Need People When Old

Oooo Viji MA!

Yong children also are depressed away from parents ! they to miss the childhood days carefree and happy...
its an infinite loop of happiness, loneliness....happiness...

don't know what the solution is...

 

Dear viji maa
I feel all the working group of people who are away from parents and relatives are facing the challenge of relationship maintainence.After the marriage most of the times its shared goals.
Friends become handy and easier source to youngsters who stay away from parents to share everything with them. This cycle throws them into depression when friends are emotionally unavailable and then turn towards parents as they are the only saviours.
They cannot quit their jobs to move closer to parents. Cannot take too many leaves.sometimes not possible to take their parents to live in the same house.
I feel youngsters are also in depressed and helpless state(I am definitely not a relationship expert)This is what i experienced staying away from parents after marriage and job purpose.
On the otherside...parents always contribute
For upbringing for their child till they get married then wait for their grand children. Work like crazy for the grandchildren when they are in infant stage.with all this work they have to take care of themselves if they fall sick.This way they contribute their Golden time (neglecting their health as it not will not become their priority with all this work) for their children and grandchildren.

 

Sunset years are suppose to be the golden years of life...... But unfortunately for most people life becomes a solitary one due to children living far away..... It is indeed very depressing for most parents and depressing for the children as well.....though harsh but one has to accept life and develop a healthy social life with an accessible support system......

 

Dear Vijima,

Our ancestors were very wise in advising Vanprasthashram for the old people. Till recent years people didn't care for it but now increasing number of people are opting for Oldage homes where they will find more people of their age-group and can interact better.

Maybe everything depends on fate. Some good people don't get their children or relatives company in the old age yet some very nasty people get all the company+love+care. These days online contacts are our dearest people! A senior friend tells me that technology is the best friend to alleviate loneliness.

 

Rightly said. Weekend was Father’s Day. FB, WhatsApp are flooded with goody goody words. Happened to read one of friend’s tribute to his father. I know this family personally. Father cheated his own siblings, fought with his parents so much that those old parents’ last days were miserable. But my friend and his sister adore their dad (atleast based on the glowing tributes they write in FB every Father’s Day or their dad’s birthdays).

They were aware of what happened to their grand parents and their uncles/aunts due to their dad’s selfish deeds but still their public love to their dad makes me not to believe in the saying ‘you reap what you sow’

 

Thank You viji maa.very glad to receive your feed back.
There was a lot of commotion in my mind after the marriage as i have to move away to a new place.Myself being a doctor taking leave from work was always a big problem.I could never spend time with my grand parents and parents.
All the situations put together helped me to analyse your post better

 

True.senior citizens feel lonely. Seen relatives who are senior citizens become busy and happy when their children and grandchildren come to see them. It is heart whelming to see their love for their family.
Yes definitely good begets good.