Depressed!!

Sorry to Hear that. I can guess that you have been in a IT/ITES related job that's undergoing tremendous transformation like digital etc OR Job in a domain in which economy is not doing well. I Hope you were given sufficient notice on that regard or get compensated for a couple of months till you get another job.

I think this is what is hurting you the most, You had that human value to contribute to the job. But , in reality it is all about the economy/Commerce i.e Making a profit that seems to form the basis. So, Please do not be so hard on yourself, rather give a pat on your back and cherish the values

may be some IL members can suggest more on how you find a new job. You have not given a description of the industry/role of your job, so that someone here can guide you. Please choose a role that values your experience, as it would be really tough to compete with Millienials

 

Please do not be demotivated. I had to take a break from work due to kids and other things . I remember being really depressed initially but decided I had to make the most of my time away from work. Focus on your job search . Devote atleast 2 hrs everyday . Between the job searches do not forget to enjoy life . Pursue your interests , take a walk , get a manicure, pamper yourself. Catch up with your teenagers , watch movies with them.
Life is too short and unpredictable to have any regrets. I have had so many wakeup calls this year. People lost in accidents, people battling terminal diseases. I am sure if you asked them about the one thing they wanted it would be to just live. Something that most of us take for granted.

 

Don’t be depressed. You’re not old to be forcefully retired. I read an article online recently that suggests people should start full time job only at 40 and work till 70-80. The HR or whoever conveyed this to you must be an younger immature person who doesn’t know the right manner to convey this to you. Just forgive the person and the company you worked for and move on. I know its easier said than done.

Trust me time is a great healer. You’ll forget this company and this depression phase once you get a new job, which I’m sure you will with your experience. It’s just a matter of time.

Just a suggestion. If you are not financially required to work, how about take this is as an opportunity to enjoy your hobbies or go on vacation for few months, relax and then start looking for a new job. This may be a self realizing phase as well when you’re on a break.

 

"people"? Who people? Perhaps I had missed it; but you are with a spouse, aren't you ? Is he the people ?

Retirement is your decision. No people can decide that for you. That feeling happens when the balance sheet equation (benefits of working - costs of working ≤ 0 ) for your life tells you so.

Very often when one has sufficient money, it would seem that one would not want a salaried job very badly. If the life partner is making enough for all in the family, and you have complete control of all the wealth/investments of the family (both conditions must apply), perhaps an early retirement, at whatever age could be OK.

Added later: I am "early" retired. And now settled into a busy life of doing only things I like.

 

Hi @PLK

Please dont be depressed.. Keep searching.. If market is down.. It may take some time.. But it will happen .. Be positive..

I hope there is not more of financial burden..

Retirement age is to be decided by you only ..

Calculate ur finances ..

Dont be so negative..

Its a phase.. it will pass..

 

What does it matter what people ask or think ? They might ask out of sheer curiosity or just trying to indulge in small talk. No one can force you to retire . It is solely your decision right ? So why stress over a problem when there is none ?
Good luck!

 

Since you are in notice period, its the high time that you may get hired. Update you job portal and set the notice period to less value. There are so many employers who needs immediate joiners.

All the best