cooking issues with mother in law

The simplest solution will be to keep a portion of food without onions and garlic for MIL. It is not reasonable for you to give these up during her stay, especially if it is for a whole year.
This was the practice followed in my family, and in countless other South Indian homes when I was growing up. My grandmothers and ladies of their generation were extremely orthodox and did not eat onions and garlic. However as long as their food was kept separate they had no problem with it being cooked and eaten by others in the house.
Compromise is essential here. Don't fight with your husband. But gently go about making your own food, and some of her favorite foods the way she likes it.
If your MIL will be in charge of the kitchen, then prepare what you want for yourself.

 

If one is used to eating without onion/garlic it will be hard for them to eat with onion/garlic. It's better to cook separate without onion /garlic and add the masala inthe last. I am used to eating without onion/garlic and it's tough for me to cook for my in-laws who cannot eat without onion/garlic

 

Keep some things like tomato puree, and other spices ready before she comes, in the fridge. Prepare MIL's food without onion-garlic, and then add it to your food.

You can also get readymade spice mix for curries, with/without onion-garlic. Get some with onion-garlic, and some without it.

Encourage her to prepare food for herself, as she is coming for a long stay.

 

You get garlic power, like the one that we can sprinkle on pretzels.
See, if you can get onion powder too. Sprinkle in your dishes before you eat.

 

Assign most days on which MIL can cook. Say MIL cooks from Mon - Fri. Keep weekends for pampering MIL with your cooking. Cook separately for yourself on these days. Brownie points with DH too.

 

Op, this isn't worth having a tussle over. I would say hand over an onion-garlic-free kitchen to her.

Before she arrives though, cook huge batches of curry sauce (onion, ginger, garlic, tomato) and freeze - I use freezer bags to pour the sauce in and food the bags before freezing such that there are 4-6 single serving gravy in each bag. On days that you crave something, tell her respectfully that here are going to be smells for a while, and do your thing quickly. When you finish, light candles/ joss sticks/ room freshners.

Dont discuss/ elaborate as that will only cause endless arguments. Inform respectfully and proceed when you want to.

 

You many want to first cook.. without adding onion and garlic
And then do a tadka.. separately.. Lot of work though !

 

Hi

Just cook two Types!

MY FIL have ULCER near 3 Years, By god's grace it is Just In Starting stage when we found, We treated with all Doctors and Specialists, But MY FIL take effort to overcome this Ulcer Problem.

Yes, He completely omit normal food three years, When i used to cook, i cook the same for him without, chilly, dry chilly, chilly powder, Garlic, Ginger etc.,

That is only water with some what color, including chicken or mutton or fish!

For Non veg items, just some water, Jeeragam, Sombu Little bit Ginger Garlic Paste, thats it!

It is no need to fight with your Husband or MIL

Just prepare food for her taste, if you want made yourself.

In my Home, Some dishes are not liked by MY Husband, MIL and FIL, But i liked them, so i just cook for myself.

We have no food related issues til now. So cook separately.